Love vs. Co-dependency Options

[Flightlessbird50]

I've been struggling with my self-esteem for about three years now. I've been working on it, and slowly I've been building it. There's this guy I know I'm not ready for, and who isn't ready for a relationship either. We've been together before. He loves me and I used to think I love him, but I have just been told that I may be emotionally dependent rather than in love. I don't really know if that's true, because I feel like I do love him, but if it is, I'm willing to work on this because I really really care about this person, and I want to be in a happy relationship with them someday.
I just need someone to tell me that at least a little part of me loves him, or that I'm not totally JUST dependent.
This sounds crazy, I know, but I need help.
Thank you.

[LittleMissSunshi...]

i think your afraid of being with him. you say you love him but at the same time your independent. you need sometime for yourself, to make sure that you really want to be with him or not. i understand that you need opinions from others to help you make the choice. but if you really think about it, you have to decide on your own that if you really want to be with him. yes, you love him, but that doesn't give you the satisfaction you need, to say "I want to be with him." your having doubts.. you'll figure it out sooner or later (;