Needy boyfriend Options

[mushiebeans]

I feel bad cuz hes trying to be the best boyfriend, being there for everything, coming to my house when im bored. But I feel smothered. Especially cuz during football season, he came to every game. Every Friday. But somehow I feel like Friday is MY thing, with MY friends. I haven't gone anywhere without him these days, cuz my friends invite him everywhere i'm going with, and even my parents ask me to ask him to go anywhere. I feel really smothered, like I have no freedom. Especially being a naturally free person who LOVES to socialize, I can't stand the fact that everyone asks "wheres J?" Any time I'm without him. I'm being a bad girlfriend arent I? I should be thankful for such a caring boyfriend. But I'm not. I read too many romance novels and watch too much movies. But frankly all that mushy romantic stuff is a bit too much for me because I'm much more an independent person than the "oh-baby-i-love-you-i-want-you-to-be-with-me-every-single-moment" kind of girl.
One example, Friday was homecoming, and so my bf and i went to the homecoming dance. But I was having much more fun dancing with my friends than with my bf (who cant dance for nuts.). Later he felt like I was being distant and that he wanted to "win my love back" and "better [himself]". I felt like it was a bit too much.
Am I a bad girlfriend for feeling smothered like this?

[mushiebeans]

but does the fact that I had more fun with my friends than with my boyfriend mean that he doesn't mean much to me? I always prefer more people because it tends to be more fun. But having a bf stuck to me kind of ruins it. because i can't run around and be goofy when i had a bf wanting to put his arm around me every living moment.

[tokyo-rose]

but does the fact that I had more fun with my friends than with my boyfriend mean that he doesn't mean much to me? I always prefer more people because it tends to be more fun. But having a bf stuck to me kind of ruins it. because i can't run around and be goofy when i had a bf wanting to put his arm around me every living moment.

You probably feel this way because you're together all the time. A couple should not spend every waking moment with each other. Take Melissa's advice and talk to him about needing time to yourself. Talk to your parents and friends about it, too.

[Just_Dream]

You probably feel this way because you're together all the time. A couple should not spend every waking moment with each other. Take Melissa's advice and talk to him about needing time to yourself. Talk to your parents and friends about it, too.

......... WHAT'S THAT SUPPOSED TO MEAN?!


mushiebeans - It's okay my boyfriend isn't really good at dancing. He even trusts me enough to go with one of my girl friends clubbing. Anyway, how long have you been with him? You should just tell him that you need space. I mean, honestly if you feel so uncomfortable with him around EVEN when you are with your friends, you should really reconsider the relationship. Plus, maybe your expectations of a relationship conflict with his, so it's better to just talk it out - yes I know, I'm basically regurgitating what others have said, but it's true!. If he's not willing to change, then just break up. You don't want your existence to be defined by your boyfriend.

Seriously, some people still call me "Tony's Girlfriend" - it's like, "uh, hello?! I have a name! We went to high school together for 4 years!"


But then again, I'm kind of needy, and so is my boyfriend. We like being around each other so much. :D