Needy boyfriend Options

[mushiebeans]

I feel bad cuz hes trying to be the best boyfriend, being there for everything, coming to my house when im bored. But I feel smothered. Especially cuz during football season, he came to every game. Every Friday. But somehow I feel like Friday is MY thing, with MY friends. I haven't gone anywhere without him these days, cuz my friends invite him everywhere i'm going with, and even my parents ask me to ask him to go anywhere. I feel really smothered, like I have no freedom. Especially being a naturally free person who LOVES to socialize, I can't stand the fact that everyone asks "wheres J?" Any time I'm without him. I'm being a bad girlfriend arent I? I should be thankful for such a caring boyfriend. But I'm not. I read too many romance novels and watch too much movies. But frankly all that mushy romantic stuff is a bit too much for me because I'm much more an independent person than the "oh-baby-i-love-you-i-want-you-to-be-with-me-every-single-moment" kind of girl.
One example, Friday was homecoming, and so my bf and i went to the homecoming dance. But I was having much more fun dancing with my friends than with my bf (who cant dance for nuts.). Later he felt like I was being distant and that he wanted to "win my love back" and "better [himself]". I felt like it was a bit too much.
Am I a bad girlfriend for feeling smothered like this?

[Castaway]

He is too obsessed. Being obsessed isn't too much of a bad thing because it shows he really cares. But there's a line and he crossed it a bit but he told you he needed to win back your love.

but does the fact that I had more fun with my friends than with my boyfriend mean that he doesn't mean much to me? I always prefer more people because it tends to be more fun. But having a bf stuck to me kind of ruins it. because i can't run around and be goofy when i had a bf wanting to put his arm around me every living moment.

No, not at all. So he always has his arms around you? Or you two are always holding hands, etc? I don't blame you. When i see that, i do not see a healthy relationship (when a couple does that non-stop). Holding hands, holding each other is a nice thing but it can be overused to a point where it is no longer special.

Try hinting that you don't want to be smothered. Maybe he'll get it and he won't be so hurt. If you're patient you can try that out.. but if you're not then don't because you might get so sick of him that you'll break up..
The best way is to talk to him about it.