Friends With Benefits Options

[MrStrife]

First and foremost, my sincerest apologies to those of you who already read and know where this topic has been prior made.

Well, as for me, I've been friends with this one girl and it's cool. She calls me up whenever she wants to chill and we hang out, have fun, and sometimes we get it on. She told me from the getgo that she didn't want to lead me on and wasn't looking for love, so I agreed and we came up with the "arrangement" (I can't think of a better word).

Thing is recently, I think I got my feelings too deep in this. I'm starting to treat her like my girlfriend and she's having doubts about what we're doing. Like she started crying and told me she thought what we were doing was wrong. I told her I never made her do anything and I'm not going to, just as long as you're happy. Now it's just plain confusing and I don't know the deal with us anymore.

Any advice out there in cB land?

Scratch that, why lie? Would it make me evil if I slept with another girl too?

[MatMan1490]

if you guys are such 'good friends' you should be able to sit down and talk to her about what is on your mind...

I am not talking about this 'thing' whatever it is between you, i am just talking about general stuff between friends... when you have a chance and you 2 are just hanging out together, start talking to her about just stuff, and work up from there, into 'whatever this this is' that you two have... Try very hard to ask her how she feels, and let her explain what's on her mind.

You might learn something.

In any case, you two are either gonna fade away into nothing, or work past this. It will just take talking to each other quietly and coolly like friends.