waiting times Options

[yaamakoh]

one of my good friends that i have known for over a year now is single, and i have liked her for quite some time now... just that the timing was off. we have good chemistry with each other, and i have always been there for her, as she has always been there for me.
she finally broke up with her boyfriend, she's calling me frequently and asking to hang out a lot more than she used to.
except there's a problem.
i wouldn't mind asking the question, but the fact is that she had a recent abortion along with an abusive relationship.
i really want to be with her, take the relationship to the next level, give her what her other boyfriends didn't, but i just don't know how long to wait after everything that has happened to her.

i mean, i waited for a long time but now that i have the chance certain road blocks are ahead of me. it will take time to go around it, but how long do you think i should wait? should i initiate it now completely disregarding what's ahead or should i take it slow and go around?

[T00000]

Definitely give it time, because right now she is really emotionally sensitive and may just want a shoulder to lean on, and a friend to talk to. You don't want to move to fast and risk pushing her away. You need to be there for her as a friend, and once she gets over what's going on (it varies from person to person but I would give it at LEAST a month or two... maybe even three) you can try to gradually talk about getting together.

Since you two are good friends, another thing you don't want to do is be a "rebound" from her past relationship. Those never last either and are usually thought of as mistakes. Take it slow, that's my suggestion.