stories for the dumped. Options

[teeners4]

so here's my story:

i've dated this guy for 2 years then one day he decides to tell me he needs to be single, although he cares and loves me he needs to be single and is too young to commit to seriously to one person. this i understand, if he needs space, fine. however he still wanted to be friends right away (which i wasn't ready for but fell for anyways) when we did hang out he always brought up inside jokes and moments from our intimate moments and one day before a party he told me that he thought it's never too soon to move on after a break-up, BUT he didn't want me to hook up with anyone that night and neither would he.

fast forward to the night of the party he was hooking up with a girl. i, of course, confronted him told him i did not want to be friends and walked out. i was bawling, but so was he. today, i collected all the items i have of his and returned it to his house. he assured that he still wanted to be friends but i told him i can't, not for awhile, and he started tearing up again.(why did he? i have no idea)

so how long do you wait to be friends again? could i ever be with him again when he is ready to commit? should i give him spacE? or propose that i want to be together again? ahhh

or have i just been clearly dumped but he did it in a nice way?

and what is your story of being dumped? how did you move on? or have you even moved on?

[batman]

I feel like I've heard this story a million times and the ending is never really the same. I don't think there's any good catch-all advice that will make the situation magically work out for you.

You seem to have it all figured out. He's upset about you not wanting to be his friend probably because he does care a lot about you and wants you in his life. Unfortunately, nobody can have it all and it's not fair of him to try and keep you close while hooking up with other girls at the same time.

I think taking some time away from him is a good idea. Forcing friendship after a 2-year relationship where the breakup wasn't mutual never really works out for anybody. When you want to try and be friends again is really up to you. It took more than a year for one of my close friends to get over her boyfriend while I know other girls who've bounced back after a month or so.

In the meantime, though, I wouldn't wait for him. Give him space. If he wants to come back to you, let him, but don't go running to him.

I've never been dumped, probably because I'm too busy trying to help my friends work out their dramatic love lives that I have no time for my own. Ok, that's a lie, but I tend to view the male species in a negative light and chase them away before they even get close.