Friends With Benefits Options

[MrStrife]

First and foremost, my sincerest apologies to those of you who already read and know where this topic has been prior made.

Well, as for me, I've been friends with this one girl and it's cool. She calls me up whenever she wants to chill and we hang out, have fun, and sometimes we get it on. She told me from the getgo that she didn't want to lead me on and wasn't looking for love, so I agreed and we came up with the "arrangement" (I can't think of a better word).

Thing is recently, I think I got my feelings too deep in this. I'm starting to treat her like my girlfriend and she's having doubts about what we're doing. Like she started crying and told me she thought what we were doing was wrong. I told her I never made her do anything and I'm not going to, just as long as you're happy. Now it's just plain confusing and I don't know the deal with us anymore.

Any advice out there in cB land?

Scratch that, why lie? Would it make me evil if I slept with another girl too?

[applejaxkz]

Friends with benefits are always nice, but it can get very confusing and complicated quickly. As you are finding out for yourself. I would say just sit down and have a talk with her. There is nothing wrong with having a bed buddy. You guys are both sexually attracted to each other so it's normal.

Just make sure you communicate with her and let her know how you're feeling. If you find yourself starting to fall for her and she doesn't want anything more than sex and the whole "Friend" thing. Then it may be time to take it easy for a while. You can't force her to want to be in a relationship, not that you are.

I guess I am just saying that you need to talk to her. Good Luck!