How to deal with a Breakup? Options

[swishersweet]

I broke up with my ex-gf about a week ago. I was really sprung over her, which is weird since i'm the one that dumped her. I'm trying to get over her since I've already made myself look like a fool. If you know what I mean..

What should I do?

[espressive]

errhm if you already tried contacting her and made yourself look like a fool, then perhaps it's best not to initiate contact with her again for a while. i'm not saying you shouldn't EVER, but honestly, sometimes it's just easier to wait until your emotions die down before you go to that person again. not seeing/talking to somebody for a while does wonders! another you can do (okay, it sounds lame but desperate times calls for desperate needs) is journal. you're probably filled with rollercoaster emotions at this point and you need somewhere to "put" them. now sometimes, that may be in the form of talking with friends, but friends may get wary if you bother them too much. so just take out a piece of paper and write down how you're feeling or even write a letter TO her (but don't send it, obviously). also, make a playlist of songs that make you happy and play it when you're feeling icky. better yet, take that playlist out for a jog. Jogging really clears your mind, helps you to lose weight, and releases happy hormones! it's a package deal, i tell you.

here are also a couple of things to avoid. facebook/myspace are the devil. do NOT go on them or any other blogging site. i know you want to, and once you do, you're gonna be creeper and look at her site. do not scroll through your phone for old texts/voicemails. let's not bask in self-pity.


hope that helps. but really, let's face it - the first week of a breakup is gonna suck, no matter what you do but it's suppose to. and really, sometimes wallowing in self-pity helps. it's okay that you do that for like the first day or two, but the reality of it is to recollect yourself and move on. i assure you, things will get better with time.