Can I get some answers? Options

[dpl313]

I'm lost. Ok. It all started back in February. I started talking to this girl through a friend. We went out the 1st time, and it seemed ok. She said she wanted to hangout again. I was starting to gain interest in her. I told her, and on vday she gave me the let's be friends bs speech. We went out again a month later. During the 2nd date she mentioned this guy. He gave her a coat and some car parts previously, and she wouldn't stfu about this guy. It just made the atmosphere of the moment really awkward.

I tried making the effort to hangout with her, but she blew me off. So I cut off contact with her. I tried and tried to cut off contact with her. Finally I stopped thinking about her. Anytime someone mentioned her to me I was just disgusted. But then early Summer I was going through my day and I started thinking about her again. I called her, and she was happy to hear from me.

We went out again. I was looking forward to this, and I told her that. Once I told her that she told me it was just as friends. I was ok with it. I thought ok at least I'm going to spend time with her. So we were hanging out and I told her I still wanted to be with her. I was going to wait, because she told me she didn't want a relationship with anyone at the time. The way she acted when we went out was like she was over this dude. She said she wanted to hangout again, but everytime I turned around she was "busy." Then she didn't return my phone calls.

So I left it alone because I moved to a new state. Earlier this month we talked on aim, and we had a long convo. She told me how she had feelings for the dude that bought her those stupid gifts. We argued, because I felt like she was using me as a tv dinner option. She didn't even argue that. I just pointed out how she was wishy washy. One minute she acts like can't stand this guy and the next minute.

We talked again on aim today. I realized I still got some feelings for her. I asked her what's going on with her and the guy, and she said...

Me: What's going on with that guy you're chasing?
Her: It's a thing.
Me: A thing
Her: We're in an unofficial relationship. No need to rush anything. Haha.

When she said that I just made up a story about me turning a girl down. Just at the hopes that she'd get jealous. All she did was ask me why did I turn the girl down. I'm just confused. Was she telling me this to get me jealous? If you were in my shoes would you stop talking to this girl? I noticed I'm not even sad about this. I'm just really angry. I feel like I invested time for nothing. Just to be option b at best. It's making me think more and more. Do you have to be a douche bag to get the girl?

[miyashu]

honestly, it sounds like she is using you as a shoulder-to-cry-on kinda thing. i'd stop talking to her and move on. if you feel like you're being used, then it's truly not worth the effort. i'm sure you will find someone else who's genuinely interested in you, and won't blow you off.