How Could One Justify Adultery?, Or is it Unforgivable? Options

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Marriage is serious business!

Well, it should be viewed that way, at least. How could one justify cheating on their spouse? What situation could possibly permit such an act as 'excusable?' On the other hand, depending on the situation, is it possible for a third party to find some sense of 'right' by knowingly getting involved with a married person?

I'd like to hear some responses. It seems like a vague question now, but I'll go into detail a bit more pending the responses I get.

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It occurring while deployed is just deplorable on the husband's part in my opinion. My boyfriend's wife cheated on him while he was in Iraq about this time last year, and on Thanksgiving posted a Myspace bulletin that she was leaving him and getting a divorce. (Without telling him personally first.) It brings out the worst in people I think. She later had the nerve to say she only cheated because he was never around. Though, he was in the army when they married, and she knew full and well he'd be getting deployed again.

I don't know, I guess i have a bit of a double standard in that area. The people who cheat while their spouses are deployed should have their reproductive organs removed with rusty tools in my opinion.

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It occurring while deployed is just deplorable on the husband's part in my opinion. My boyfriend's wife cheated on him while he was in Iraq about this time last year, and on Thanksgiving posted a Myspace bulletin that she was leaving him and getting a divorce. (Without telling him personally first.) It brings out the worst in people I think. She later had the nerve to say she only cheated because he was never around. Though, he was in the army when they married, and she knew full and well he'd be getting deployed again.

I don't know, I guess i have a bit of a double standard in that area. The people who cheat while their spouses are deployed should have their reproductive organs removed with rusty tools in my opinion.

That's awful. I know it seems very hypocritical for me to say this, but this is why I'm scared shitless to get married while in the military. The job itself; no sweat, but it takes a toll on your life. I don't want to go on a deployment (next up; Afghanistan), and have to worry about my wife/girlfriend getting run through and spending my damn money. I understand that my situation contradicts what I believe about this whole topic, but then again, that's the gray area.

LOL Yep.

So the husband jacked it up. That truly adds a whole new perspective to things. Well from my personal experience, words of wisdom:

When a female Marine gets cheated on, they get very bipolar. One week, shes saying its over and she wants to move on. The next week, she'll tell you that she and her husband are going to try and make it work. And it keeps going in a cycles.

Now take notice of your surrounding. When you're surrounded by men, having a female companion is fantastical. It lightens up your whole day. Whether we admit it or not, we long for that female companionship. So then our perspective gets really narrow. We start thinking that this is the only way we can be happy.

The Here and Now. He cheated on her. Shes looking for answers. We don't know what kind of answers shes looking for. Revenge? Closure? Or just piecing back the relationship. Yes, deployments have an effect and makes everything different. If you for sure know that she wants to move on, and that she wants it from you... just don't get caught. But if she's swinging moods left and right over the course of the month, step back. Step the F back.

Personally, I had to step back. Btch was crazy. I'm glad I did. Girl is now still in, just had a child from her ex, living alone. It breaks my heart. Meanwhile I am typing up this unintentional long essay in the freedom of my computer lab at my college, sitting next to this girl I'm about to hollar at, soaking up all this fantastical FREEDOM! Because I can! Because I stepped back.

This situation is routine drama in the Corps. When you come back and if and when you choose to get out, your vision will expand to the point where you'll be laughing at this subject.

Career wise, this is providing stability for me that I just can't overlook. With the job market crumbling, people being laid off, and too many uncertain variables out there, I can't turn my back on a guaranteed paycheck unless I have something else out there. The Corps itself, it's not treating me bad at all. I'll see what I'll do next once I get to my next unit (Pentagon. Ultimate POG status). If all works out, MSG or recruiting duty will be the route I take.

As for the scandalous skeezers and stunts; I'm about fed up. Can a brotha have a normal social life? Shit.

f**k no it isn't justifiable, what a bunch of lousy human beings.



but yeah it's always justifiable when you're in a situation that needs to be justified.


nah really though, i am not for cheating at all. i have never cheated physically and never will i don't think, but i brush the line of emotionally cheating more than i'd like. i think there's plenty of situations where things can be justified, but that never makes it anymore right. i don't see a huge difference between a situation being a serious relationship and marriage. the ring doesn't make things worse imo, the only thing that makes things "worse" are if there is a family/kids involved. that's kinda too much for me to stomach, but i won't say it's 100% not justifiable becuase there just isn't any 100% to anything involving relationships.


so yeah, i think it can be justified.

That made sense. I don't know how, but that made sense.

No, I'm not married.

You replied too late. I was going to respond but I don't feel the need to. Good day.