Could really use some advice on this situation!!!, Dont know what to think about his actions or my sudden feelings! Options

[Marrisa3636]

I graduated this past May..but At the beginning of the year, everything was normal between me and one of my teachers, but as the year went on, I realized that he started doing strange things, like telling other kids(as a joke), that they should not talk to me, even make eye contact with me..or one time he said in class one day, that he loved me and that I will always have a special place in his heart. He would make these little remarks like, once I saw him in the hallway and it was crowded and he came out of one of the classes and told these kids, hey you guys need get to class and clear the hallways, because there is a beautiful girl in the hallway. He saw me before graduation, he told me I looked beautiful, and said that this year has been a year he won't forget, because he feels that he has become a better person, teacher, everything because I opened his eyes to giving people an opportunity to succeed.The year was full of moments like that. Now, I am starting to question how I feel about him, It's like he slowly seduced me all year? I just don't know if these 'feelings' between us are real?

I am gonna be 19 and he is gonna be 25. I have talked to some friends and some family.. and most just tell me I just took what he said wrong, and I should forget it..but everytime I get convinced, yeah..it probobly didn't mean anything..or he didnt mean what he said like that, something else happens..and it makes me think otherwise.

As for me, in all honesty, I do like him, as we did spend a lot of time together last year, but I just can imagine what other people would say, and Its sort of like, my heart tells me one thing, but the reality of the way people think makes me feel like I have to think otherwise. I don't want either of us to get a bad reputation, and I know that people could think things happened before Graduation. I mean, he told me at the end of the year, that he did like me, and hoped that any guy that dates me, realizes how lucky he really is. I really dont know if these feelings are 'real' or if my mind is just playing tricks on me.

I caught up with my teacher recently.. and it was at school and when he saw me, he told me, 'hey..before you leave, you have to check out my office..you haven't been up there yet.' So, He went to class and I went up to see what he was talking about, and he had this pic. of us that I gave him at the end of the year, framed. The picture kinda shocked me...I was like...huh? I mean, I gave any teacher that I had taken a photo with at the end of the year, a copy of the pic. and some of them tacked it on the wall, or just have it like leaning on something in their office, or some just took it home, but I was surprised that he framed it...I was like..wow..really was not expecting that. Should I just take that as a compliment, that he doesn't want the pic getting messed up, or take that as something...weird??? Its like the only two things he has up too..like he doesnt have any other things up in his office yet. Part of me says, wow, thats nice of him, and then the other part is like...alittle strange???

What do you guys think?!?

[towntown2]

Your friends may be right.
In any case, you're an adult now, so you can talk to him face to face and be honest about the situation.

Answer this question:
Are you interested?
If the circumstances are different--if you guys met somewhere else and didn't have a student-teacher connection--would you date him?

[Marrisa3636]

Your friends may be right.
In any case, you're an adult now, so you can talk to him face to face and be honest about the situation.

Answer this question:
Are you interested?
If the circumstances are different--if you guys met somewhere else and didn't have a student-teacher connection--would you date him?

Well..part of me really was does like him, but I I am convinced that these feelings I have are even "real". I do think about him somdays...but then there are days, that I really do think...its all in my head and eventually...all of this will just go away, and we'll be friends and thats it. But then there are the times when we see eachother, or someone will say something, or I'll see something on TV and it will trigger a memory, of something that happen during the year, or it will remind me something he said, or we talked about once...and, i'll think of everything of that happend..and its like the moments just replay in my head. ( I know it probably sounds weird).

Part of me wants to just be friends but the other part of me always wonders, well..I have to be feeling this way for a reason...What if we were together? What if all of this was for real, and he meant the things he said? I would hate having to live my life with all the " What Ifs". I do want to give it a chance..and I guess at the same time.. I am scared, on the other hand...No one has ever really made me feel this way before.

Although I honestly, can not say that if I had met him outside of school, I would be like...OMG I have to have that guy. Our initial friendship...really was like non-exsistent..we just delt with each other becasue we had to. It was really a " we sort of Grew on each other, made each other change some ways" kind of thing. He changed a lot and so...the person he is now...I like so much better then the person I met the first day of classes to be honest.