another age gap topic., sorry guys, i guess i lack originality. Options

[mytangerine]

i know shortnsweet88 posted a topic not too terribly long ago about this, but can you please give me advice anyways? that would be so helpful

the situation isn't entirely the same, since i am 17 & he is 23. we have the most incredible connection and chemistry that i really cannot see myself finding anyone else with that degree of compatibility. we can talk about anything and everything, and physicality is not a focus at all. sure we kiss/makeout, but we talk significantly more than we do that.it is also incredibly apparent that he is not just a jerk that wants some young booty or anything, he is actually legit.

main dilemma;
telling my parents. do i or don't i? i feel horrible for hiding such a major thing like this from them, it seriously kills me. however, just today i told my mom i had gone to dinner with some older college guy friends of mine & some of their friends and she said "i don't know if i feel comfortable with you hanging out with older guys like that" that just kind of killed my hopes that she will actually be okay with it if i were to explain properly. but is hiding it from her longer really going to be better than just letting her know & perhaps dealing with the wrath that might ensue? i really expect to stay with this guy as long as possible, he really is as close to perfect as i have come to finding.

[mipadi]

Speaking from the point of view of a 22-/almost 23-year-old guy, I kind of wonder what a 23-year-old guy would want with a 17-year-old girl.

I know that might sound a bit offensive, but at those ages, six years is a big difference. I talk to only one girl who is 6 years younger than me, and that's my friend's little sister, and that's only because I've known her since she was 4 months old. And I just think of her as a little sister, certainly not someone I'd be interested in dating.

I know your situation might be different and the guy might be completely legit, but I also don't blame your parents for not wanting their daughter to date a 23-year-old guy.

[brooklyneast05]

I know your situation might be different and the kind might be completely legit, but I also don't blame your parents for not wanting their daughter to date a 23-year-old guy.

^yeah i agree with this. if i had a 17 year old daughter i wouldn't be ok with her dating a 23 year old. i'd also be curious as to why a 23 year old is even paying any attention to a 17 year old or how they even got to be that close in the first place.


anyway, that sucks. i would personally wait until you're 18 so you can at least use the "i'm an adult now" excuse on them.