concerned. Options

[jaznique]

so I've been w| my gf for almost two months now
& everything's practically perfect..
but I cant help thinking about her ex gf.

they were together for a year & a couple of months;
& I feel as if there's still something there,

& this is my first real relationship w| a girl;
& I don't want to get hurt..

she once joked about leaving me for her
& I believe 50% of all jokes are semi-true.
& she has admitted to still having a tiny bit of feelings for her..

I want to talk to her about it;
but I don't want her to think I'm jealous..
I'm just worried..

what are some questions I can ask her ( & myself ) to reassure that this is a solid relationship ?

[towntown2]

okay, well, gender aside..
you should tell her what you told us.

you can voice your concern without sounding jealous or overprotective.
if your girlfriend cares, then she'd really listen and try to solve the problem.

[karmakiller]

okay, well, gender aside..
you should tell her what you told us.

you can voice your concern without sounding jealous or overprotective.
if your girlfriend cares, then she'd really listen and try to solve the problem.

I agree. Communication is key. If you don't tell her how you feel, then she'll never know. But it sounds to me like she is trying to hint some concern to you... when you she says in a "joking" tone that she still has feelings for her ex. I think she's trying to open the door on that one, but she doesn't just want to come out and say it, because she's worried that you're going to get angry or jealous.