Virginity, Losing it to someone else..?? Options

[xskaterdrummer]

Alright, so me and the girl I'm currently "involved" with (we're long distance, and we're not in a 100% exclusive relationship, but once we're not long distance we will be.) are both virgins currently, and through her sister we basically both know that we really want to have sex with each other and that we're ready (we'll both be 18). the thing is, her sister told me that she wants to lose her virginity to "someone else" just so that she can actually "enjoy it" with me. I mean i guess in practicality it makes sense, but emotionally, it's just devastating for me to even think about it. we practically love each other.

do you think that her losing her virginity to someone else is just an excuse? or is she trying to be sensible?


on a sidenote, there is this guy at her work that she's been doing stuff with and hiding from me. even though her sister still assures me that she really likes me the most. =/

edit: we will be seeing each other in a little over a month, where it's very likely that we will be..doing it.

[imperfectionistx]

her sister told me that she wants to lose her virginity to "someone else" just so that she can actually "enjoy it" with me.

What kind of girl actually says this to her... "almost" boyfriend? :P I mean yeah, maybe it won't be the most comfortable for her the first time, but like you said it's not the physicality, it's the emotions and feelings of the moment.

It sounds really fishy that she would tell you something like that so bluntly. Maybe you should talk to HER rather than going through her sister. Mayber her sister is changing the story, especially since she (your girl) is fooling around with a guy at work? Maybe she really just wants to... explore her options a bit more before settling down with you, if you know what I mean :/

I don't think any girl that flat-out tells you something like that has much integrity or honesty (or intelligence for that matter; why tell you something she's trying to cover up later?), even more so that she is hiding things from you. I'm not saying I'm right or she's a bad person but sorry to be so pessimistic, but her behavior and actions just seem so... wrong to me. I would really weigh your options.