Shy or Insecure? Options

[bigtrey90]

My friend is a friendly nice guy, who is always easy to approach. He has a hard time finding other friends in college, and doesn't know exactly how or what to say to make them. I suggest parties, but he tells me their just for drinking, and he is not into that. He can't seem to find anyone that relates to him, and anyone he is friendly with is just a "hi" and walk by friend. He feels left out at times and sits in his room thinking about whether to go out or not because he doesn't have any guy friends to go out with.

Any suggestions on how I could help him overcome this issue?

[Melissa]

Tell him to get more involved in classes and events/situations where he's forced to be with people. If he lives in a dorm, he should walk around and look for open doors - most people leave their door open when they don't mind being interrupted and what-not. That's how I met most of my friends during freshman year - my floor was super-friendly, and everybody left their door open, so we just sort of went around getting to know each other.

If he goes to class a bit earlier, too, he might find a few people there and start conversations with them. Tell him to join clubs and activities groups, too.

:D College is fun - don't let insecurities get in your (or his, I guess) way!