Friends with Benefits., Only people who experience this please. (Yes, Aimee has a problem) Options

[AimeeLynn]

http://www.teenwire.com/infocus/2004/if-20...p309-friend.php

Friendship Fallout

Losing that friend is another potential risk of being FWB. "Once you start hooking up with a friend, you are in this weird limbo of not being just friends anymore, but also not being together," explains Mollie. "It's kind of hard to go back to normal if you hooked up." Before you get physical, ask yourself if hooking up is worth the risk of ruining your friendship.

Well I have this problem, I hooked up with a guy that I didn't think anything other than that he was hot and good looking. I didn't think about being a relationship with him nor did he. We both agreed that we are into hook ups more than being in a relationship.
After we hooked up, things felt different. I felt like he was done with me and it's weird just talking to each other. We were good friends until the hook up. He avoiding me and hardly ever talking to me.
When I see him with another girl I feel jealous and stupid.
I felt like I lost a friend just by doing this. I don't care if we don't hook up again (but it would be nice ) but I would want to be friends with him with him not being weird around me.

So how can you deal? How can you become good friends after a hook up?
Guys, after you hook up with a girl, do you still talk to them?

I just want to get it straight. All the guys I have hooked up with I still talk to but I don't know if it's different in college.

[lovescream]

I've only hooked up with one person I was previously friends with. All others were just people I meet and stuff.

It's weird, because we actually gotten closer since our first hook up. I had a weird sexual attraction to him at a party one night lol, and vice versa, and we kinda just did it. After that, we went to his house, and just talked like the whole night until he drove me home. We kind of both mutually agreed that we'd be pretty much fwbs that night, for some reason LOL. We distanced each other when I cheated on my bf with that guy, but after my ex and i broke up, we talked again. It was slow at first, then it kinda just seemed to start off from where we had left off (being fwbs and all). I'm not sure how he felt at all at first about the situation, but one night I was at his house, and we talked about 'us' and how if we were probably in a relationship, everything would be fine, but then we agreed not to because we always get into small fights, and end up having the make up sex. LMFAO. We kinda agreed that we'd keep it safe and not hook up with other people (or try to.. LOL. He was the one who suggested it D:), so he's pretty much my only friend I can go to whenever I need anything.
I agree having emotional attachment could complicate things though, but I guess it just really depends on your guys' relationship to begin with and how strong it can grow (friend-wise).
I feel like he's like a really really good friend to me, because we can talk about anything about life too, but I really don't have any attraction to him besides sexual. ;o

lol sorry that was long. ):