Breaking up. Options

[lovescream]

In most of your relationships that you've decided to end, do you usually drag it out or do you end it right when you decide?
Or do you try to get THEM to break up with you?

I get scared and drag it out. There's never a right time for breaking up, but I always feel like there could be better times. T_T

[espressive]

i make sure that it's not a spurofthemomentimpissedatyou ordeal, so it's okay to 'drag it out' for a little bit to make sure that you feel the same way after a couple of days. it may feel like the longest couple of days, but if those feelings are the same after that period of time, then it's definitely something to look into.

then see if it's something that you guys can FIX (ex: like you don't like it when he/she ____). if it's something that can be fixed, i would casually bring it up in a conversation & see if it changes from there. if the reason for the breakup is due to emotional detachment, then it's not really something "fixable". feelings change; that's how it is.

in that case, the best thing to do is to be straight up with that person and break up. it's unfair to both of you to continue in a relationship when you are unhappy & you are also leading the other person on. don't go on pretending that everything is okay & sit it out. honestly, it's the worst for the other person when the time does come around cause it's such an unexpected shock. trust me, it's a major blow to be taken by surprise. but then again, my ex did go date somebody less than two weeks after we broke up. perhaps you won't be so senseless haha