Baby, I'm stuck on you. Options

[sharerol]

Ok, so basically I went out with this guy for almost a year and we broke up before school ended around May/June. I really loved this guy(cliche i know, but it's true), and he loved me too. So I didn't see or talk to him for the entire summer, but I never got over him. I wasn't sad in the summer either, like i hung out with friends/kept myself occupied/saw other guys(although no guy compared to him). But even after all that time I just couldn't seem to move on.

School started up again this week, and my feelings for him grew so much stronger(again). I know he still has feelings for me too, but I don't know if he would wanna get back with me. I find it hard to approach him at school because there's a lot of awkward tension between us. Like when two people are near each other but they purposely look somewhere else or act like the other person's not there...that kinda stuff.

What messed up the relationship in the first place was that I got really jealous of this one girl he became close to, even though i knew he didn't have any feelings for her. So yeah...i know i pretty much messed that up. But the thing he, he actually likes that girl now. And at the same time he still feels something for me, so i know he's confused. I really don't know what to do, but I can't stop thinking about him. I really miss him, and i want him back. So....help? What should a poor girl like me do?

[sharerol]

Give him time to think about what he actually wants. boys are very simple people that need more time to evaluate a situation than girls. JAY KAY! nah but really tell him how u feel and then see what happens after that. good luck now my friend wants to give u advice...

FRIEND:
Yo f**k that shit!!!. what are like addicted to this n*gga fo? what are you this niggas BITCHHH?? Girl don't act the fo. you don't need some n*gga to make you happy all you need is your self, cuz we all be beautiful and we all be damn pimp ... if we chose too. and you chosen to act like some god damn suck a niggas dick for for some crack, and by crack i mean this stupid ass n*gga who obviously dosnt appreciate the finer thing- cuz girl yous a diamond, and hell want you if you act like your diamond ass is to good for him cuz it is! And then go get a real playa... like lil wayne or somthin

haha good shit...lil wayne is ugly though.

okay i'm not sure how the breakup went down, but i do understand that feeling you're talkin about. you know, that pseudo 'i'm fine' feeling. you think you're over the relationship, but that changes the moment you see him. the sight of him brings back a rush of memories, a surge of emotions, a moment of weakness... followed shortly by a very awkward encounter - one that perhaps is better just to avoid by not acknowledging eachother.

but that is only natural. breakups aren't meant to be easy and there's going to be that awkward transition stage but hang in there - it'll get better eventually. and those overwhelming feelings you get when you see him? those are only natural too. it took time for feelings to develop and it's gonna take time to make them go away. even for the person who initated the breakup, those feelings are usually still present even after the breakup; the feelings aren't as strong as before, but it's still there in some form or another. then why do people break up when feelings are still present in even the littlest ways? it's because relationships aren't all about feelings; you have to use your mind too. if you can't make a relationship work (ex: communcation, etc), all the liking/loving in the world isn't going to make it better.

WHAT I AM TRYING TO SAY IS - breakups plays with our feelings. one day, we're totally fine and over it. the next day, we're crying and reminescing about the past. the day afterwards, we're angry cursing sailors. are you positively sure that you want him back or is it just how you feel right now? make the right decision - use your head. think about the possibilities of this relationship working out, given the second chance. don't fool yourself. be honest.

Yeah, it's not like a spur of a moment thing. I've been missing him the entire time we've been separated, and I'm positive that i want him back. I'm pretty sure that the relationship would work out better if we gave it another shot. Thing is, I dont know if he'd be willing to take that risk especially when he has feelings for another girl.

[espressive]

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okay... and are YOU willing to take the risk that it may not work out between you & him even if you laid your heart out in front of him? if you are, then i say - go for it

and you said it was hard to approach him at school, so why don't you text/call him to meet up sometime so you guys can like chat or something? plus it beats the hussle-bussle of the school setting.