loved me. now doesnt.. Options

[tengopescador]

ok so when my boyfriend and i went out for like a month and a half, we fell in love. Well i know i did. On our 3 months, he told me that he doesnt think he loves me anymore and he just needs more time. Its almost our 4 months and i dont know what to do. we talked last night about it briefly cuz ill get upset and he said he doesnt think its the right time. I love him with my whole heart. I want him to. I even tried new stuff to get him to like me more, which i know i shouldnt have done but i thought i had to. Can someone please give me advice on like what to say to him, or do you think he wont come around and love me again..

[idkilikepoprocks]

You've known him for 3 years and went out for 4 months. Does the 1st part of that sentence supposed to justify how you feel? I can say "This guy sat next to me for 3 years and we've conversed. We've gone out for a month and I know we're in love." That won't justify how I feel. Only the inner workings of the relationship can dictate that. I don't care if you've known him for a day and say you've loved him. I can't tell you you're not in love. I can tell you it's a little bit unrealistic, but who's to say. Things change, people change. You can't do anything. You can't keep clinging as if you're begging for him to love you. Do you think it's worth to put yourself in that kind of emotional spot? And yes you're doing this to yourself! Don't be passive about it though. Do something. Ask for a break if it helps or even go do something fun over the weekend that you guys never do. See if it rekindles the fire. If it doesn't, break ups are inevitable in most relationships. You can't make something work. It just has to work on its own. Good luck.