Busted!, I found him out! Options

[Ashley_Brook]

I live with my boyfriend that I have been with for a year. I have recently had much reason to suspect that he has a wandering eye, so I made a fake profile, a girl namaed "mandy" on myyearbook.com and emailed him on it to see if he would flirt back. This is what was all said.

"Mandy" - Hey there. I was just browsing around trying to find some friends in the area and came across your profile. You seem badass, so I thought I would add you as friends. So do you go to school around here? Btw I am Amanda and I am a Chinese food fanatic too! Write back whenever you can. C ya. ;)

Him - how goes it? im new to this site, so im still figuring out how to work it, but i would like to add you as a friend. you seem badass too.

"Mandy" - This website kinda sucks honestly lol. Lots of dumb stuff on here but I just use it to keep up with friends. Anyways so do you live at home? I'd like to get to know more about you.

Him - yeah, im not to impressed with it, but i wanted to check it out and i met you so its not all that bad. so tell me about you and then i'll tell you about me. i will tell you that i checked your photos and i like what i see ;)

"Mandy" - Well I I live with a couple of my friends, and I'm thinking about going to school for a career in graphic design. It's kind of dorky but it's what I enjoy doing. And I LOVE music but I don't think I'd be a good musician.
Aww thank you! A cutie like you has to be seeing someone I bet, huh?

Him - that sounds cool, where were you thinking of going? ball state?
i lived with a few friends too, but they didnt want to work or help pay rent or do anything around the place so i sent them on their way.
haha, yeah, sorry, but im free to do as i please...how about you?

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So what do you think? He's at work right now and doesn't get home until 7am and I'm planning on confronting him as soon as he gets home.

[brooklyneast05]

what you did is so incredibly sneaky/bitchy/immature that i almost think it overshadows his one statement that he was free to do what he wants.

this is a really weird situation. i hope he somehow knew it was you and it gets thrown back in your face. i can't stand girls who do this kind of shit. if two people are at this level of trust, they shouldn't even be in a relationship.

so in conclusion, you should break up with him. and if you don't, then after this he should break up with you.

[Tramatize]

what you did is so incredibly sneaky/bitchy/immature that i almost think it overshadows his one statement that he was free to do what he wants.

this is a really weird situation. i hope he somehow knew it was you and it gets thrown back in your face. i can't stand girls who do this kind of shit. if two people are at this level of trust, they shouldn't even be in a relationship.

so in conclusion, you should break up with him. and if you don't, then after this he should break up with you.

100% true, this might be a little bit more exceptable if the relationship was only like a month old, but even then its wrong to do. You've been together for a year, you should trust him, even if he is wrong. If a guy did that to you i can bet that you would be all in his case.

[Ashley_Brook]

the only thing that was busted was his last statement.

Is he not free to do what he wants? Are you not free to make a fakey and scope him out?

I'm not trying to control him. I don't own him. Really, if he wants to see other girls, he can, but I'm not going to be in the picture if that is what he wants. He tells me everything is perfect and that he sees no one else, so that is what I expect him to not do, since that is what he told me. I just want to have a boyfriend that is committed and doesn't lie, and if that is what I want, I deserve to have just that. I trusted him and he took advantage of that. Am I just supposed to trust him anyway. What if she were real, and he emailed her again wanting to meet up and they had sex, would I be obligated to trust him still? No. This is where I cross the line. I don't want a boyfriend to be telling other girls he's single, and like I said, I deserve to have that.

100% true, this might be a little bit more exceptable if the relationship was only like a month old, but even then its wrong to do. You've been together for a year, you should trust him, even if he is wrong. If a guy did that to you i can bet that you would be all in his case.

An ex did do that to me before, actually. And honestly, he had every right to.