Emotional / Physical, which one sucks more Options

[roxyy]

Ok so cheating in general sucks, but which one do you think hurts more emotional or physical cheating?

im kinda leaning on the emotional side but then again idk. i think in some ways it can be pretty even.

[libertie]

This may sound ridiculous, but I think I would be more pissed about physical cheating. It's the biggest slap in the face that someone you care about did something so irresponsible knowing it would hurt you. Sure, it was just a one time thing and it didn't mean anything, but if that's true, why do it in the first place? You have total control over the situation - don't get totally wasted, don't give in to temptation, basically just don't be a douchebag, right? This is where I realize I'm dating an immature bastard who doesn't know how to handle himself properly, and I don't want anything to do with him.

Emotional cheating is different. If a person is truly devoted to you and loves you, they would never even consider going off and getting attached to another person. When this does happen, it happens by accident in that they don't expect to suddenly develop feelings for this other person, but it's a clear sign that they don't care for you the way you thought they did (and maybe even they thought they did). It hurts like hell to love someone and then suddenly find out they don't feel the same way; however, it gives closure. You know for sure now that it can never work out with this person because they don't love you the way they should. I would say this hurts more, but both are definitely deal-breakers for me.

[espressive]

i would be more pissed if somebody physically cheated on me, but i think the one that would hurt me the most would be emotional cheating. A physical cheating occurs in a given situation, a given moment of charged hormones and irresponsibility - which may mean absolutely nothing as far as a future relationship is concerned. An emotional cheating occurs over multiple encounters, in which actual feelings develop for another person that may develop into a future relationship (something i would have to endure & it hurts the most to see your guy/girl with somebody else).

This may sound ridiculous, but I think I would be more pissed about physical cheating. It's the biggest slap in the face that someone you care about did something so irresponsible knowing it would hurt you. Sure, it was just a one time thing and it didn't mean anything, but if that's true, why do it in the first place? You have total control over the situation - don't get totally wasted, don't give in to temptation, basically just don't be a douchebag, right? This is where I realize I'm dating an immature bastard who doesn't know how to handle himself properly, and I don't want anything to do with him.

Emotional cheating is different. If a person is truly devoted to you and loves you, they would never even consider going off and getting attached to another person. When this does happen, it happens by accident in that they don't expect to suddenly develop feelings for this other person, but it's a clear sign that they don't care for you the way you thought they did (and maybe even they thought they did). It hurts like hell to love someone and then suddenly find out they don't feel the same way; however, it gives closure. You know for sure now that it can never work out with this person because they don't love you the way they should. I would say this hurts more, but both are definitely deal-breakers for me.

amen to that! those are good words.

the one thing i'd like to share my opinion about is that emotional cheating is not accidental. some people say that 'you can't help who you love', but i dont think that is necessarily true in a cheating situation. i honestly don't think that you can develop feelings for somebody else by just staring at him/her from across the room (unless they are feelings of lust, where a physical cheating may occur). in order for an emotional attraction to occur, the two HAD to be conversing or hanging out; an emotional attraction is all about getting to know and liking the person, which is a gradual process. lust can occur in a second, but love occurs over time. don't you think that at some point in time, the emotional cheater would realize that perhaps hanging out with that other girl/guy isn't such a good idea if emotions are churning? by saying emotional cheating is accidental, it means that it can't be prevented when in fact it can be. there was the choice to continue seeing the other person despite the rising emotions or to perhaps limit the contact with the other person. the cheater chose to keep seeing the other person and let the emotional attraction grow to the point where it overpowered his/her emotional attraction to you.

and for me, that hurts worst than a physical cheating, where there is a moment of irresponsibility as opposed to an emotional cheating, where there are multiple occurences of irresponsibility that foster actual feelings.