You still love your ex?, I really don't want to Options

[bambamboom]

My ex and i have been going out for about 9 months already. Then I dumped him because I felt he was going to dump me anyways. I felt so bad because I still had feelings for him. I started realizing this until later. Then as I threw myself back at him, he didn't want to go back. I cried and asked why? He said he still loves me but not in the way we use to love each other. Then after he told me he found another girl, she is pretty and it hurts because she is basically flirting and hitting on him while we went out.
He likes someone else.
I still love him.
I really need to get over him. Please help.
I'm a mess and depressed.
I really want to know if there is a chance for him and i to get back together.
He was my first.

[sharerol]

I am in a very similar situation that you are in. My ex and I broke up 3 months ago after going out for almost a year(also each other's first's) and I felt like the world was going to end. There was this one girl he always talked to when we were going out and he started hanging out with her even more once we broke up. I haven't seen or talked to him the entire summer and i STILL have feelings for him. And it still hurts every time I think that he's gonna be with that girl.

But think of it this way: If he doesn't feel the same way about you and isn't suffering, then why should you? You don't deserve to feel put down, and if he's moved on then you should too. You're just going to waste a chunk of your life moping over this guy who's already moved on with his. Instead you should keep your head up and just try to move on with your life and find other ways to be happy. If he likes the other girl, there's nothing you can do about it. You can't control what he does with his life. You just have to accept it and let it be. You just gotta toughen up and move on you know? There's no need to think of why it happened because it's already over. You have to pick yourself up and start fresh. I know it seems like the hardest thing in the world but you gotta overcome some tough obstacles in life. And trust me, no one died, so it's not the worst that could happen.