if you were cheated on would you be able to forgive Options

[ThePrettyGirlIAm]

i mean honestly if you were cheated on could you forgive your mate? i know i couldn't , i mean afterall that woudn't happen me being as pretty as i am. you should all be jealous.

[xhidethedetails]

Depends how attatched I am to the person.
But yes I have been cheated on and I was willing to forgive him but he ended up dumping me anyway.

[espressive]

would i forgive him? yes.
would i take him back? no.

i believe that if you hold a grudge against somebody, you'll still giving that person control over your life. the grudge will produce feelings of jealousy, hate, envy, etc. but the worst part of a grudge is that you're only hurting yourself - the other person doesn't feel the pain you feel. so you're just holding yourself back by holding that grudge and that unresolved grudge will eventually carry on to future relationships/situations because it's like bottled anger; you have to release it eventually (but perhaps it'll be misplaced). so i would and i did forgive him; i wouldn't forget, but i'd forgive. but it's easier said than done. admittingly, i went through a day of anger/frustration before i calmed down. but i realized pretty soon that i haven't truly 'moved on' if i couldn't find it in myself to forgive him. forgive & learn.

i also believe that what is done once can be done again, so that would be the end of it. you hurt me once, i'm not going to let you hurt me twice. and frankly, i deserve somebody better, somebody who is loyal and only needs me. plus trust is a very important part in any relationship, and you just shattered my trust for you by cheating. i can't be in a relationship with somebody i don't trust. and there was obviously something not right for the cheating to occur in the first place, so my take is that perhaps it's better to just move on.

But yes I have been cheated on and I was willing to forgive him but he ended up dumping me anyway.

he doesn't deserve you. you'll find somebody better, m'dear =]