You still love your ex?, I really don't want to Options

[bambamboom]

My ex and i have been going out for about 9 months already. Then I dumped him because I felt he was going to dump me anyways. I felt so bad because I still had feelings for him. I started realizing this until later. Then as I threw myself back at him, he didn't want to go back. I cried and asked why? He said he still loves me but not in the way we use to love each other. Then after he told me he found another girl, she is pretty and it hurts because she is basically flirting and hitting on him while we went out.
He likes someone else.
I still love him.
I really need to get over him. Please help.
I'm a mess and depressed.
I really want to know if there is a chance for him and i to get back together.
He was my first.

[espressive]

it's not a good reason to break up because you believe the other person is going to break up with you first. but i'm not going to lecture you since it's pretty clear that it's a lesson learned. you sent him the message to move on when you broke up with him so you can't blame him for moving on.

you say that you need help getting over him, yet you ask me if there is a chance for you and him to get back together. that is contradictory in itself. how can you get over somebody when you're still clinging onto the hope that you're going to get back together? you cant. so i think you need to get your thoughts straight and take things one step at a time. it's obvious that you want to get back together with him but ask yourself if it's worth it since that is not guaranteed to happen no matter what you do. and even if you do get back together, don't expect everything to fall back to the way that it was. remember - you guys broke up for a reason. there was obviously something not right for that to happen. i realize that people do make mistakes and that i am being rather pessimistic about the whole situation, but you do need to see the bigger picture. if you don't, you'll only get hurt more in the long run.

so i guess before i say anything else, i want you to ask yourself if you're going to try to get back together with him or if you're going to let it go. if you pick the latter (which i think is the most reasonable choice), i'll post some words of wisdom from recent experience but if you pick the other choice, then i don't really know what to say except - be prepared & good luck.