How to get sketchy guys to GET AWAY???, ugh!!!! Options

[anoniez]

There's this one sketchy indian kid who will NOT leave me alone. We drunkenly made out one night last year (yeah, I was a lush) and I promptly and bitterly regretted it once I got a good look at his face. He kept asking me on dates but I ignored him (literally) for about a year. Oh and he has a rep for being an ugly hairy sketchball.

Then he messaged me on facebook this summer and I felt bad so I made polite conversation. The only problem is, he thinks I want to be FRIENDS(or more) now. He drunk dialed me and I NEVER EVEN GAVE HIM MY NUMBER. A minute after I log onto FB he always messages me(wtf). He persists even after frequent mentions of the existence of a boyfriend, and unresponsive one-word answers after 5 minutes. What gives?

This guy can't take a hint. I've stopped answering him. I've told his friends to tell him to stop, nothing works!! What can I do, short of telling him, "Dude, you're f-ing sketchy, leave me the hell alone"??
I hate confrontation, and I hate being mean to people.

HELPPPP

[xoxo_proud]

okay so what are all the methods by which he can contact you?

if it's only facebook, then go offline/ignore him/defriend him.

I highly suggest having a "conversation" where you just explain what's going on. I wish I had done that with a personal experience in my life recently, buuuuut I didn't have the guts. I seriously regret not taking action/saying what I felt in a blunt manner and had I the chance to go back, I would have had the conversation. Instead I just ignored the person and let my anger and frustration build up inside me until I exploded. yeah.

what you should do: EXPLAIN HOW YOU'RE FEELING aka "stop making advances towards me". if he's persistent or doesn't get the clue after you PLAINLY state out that you have no interest in him and do not want to be pestered all day long, then delete him off facebook.

Agreed. I went to a school dance with a boy and realized I didn't want a boyfriend (I don't want one until I'm out of HS) but I was to chicken to tell him. So we ended up ignoring each other for the rest of the year. It made me feel horrible and guilty not telling him my true feelings. I finally did apologize and I feel a lot better now.

So tell him how you feel. Or it could turn into something worse. And his friends might not want to tell him either. It's not their responsibility, it's yours. You don't have to say it to his face the first time. Write him a note, send him an email. But if that doesn't work then you need to talk to him face to face.