Am I taking advantage or is he just trying to make me feel bad? Options

[loveneko]

My boyfriend and I have been going out now for close to two years, and we've set "minimum requirements" for each other; call in the morning, after school and before I go to bed. No female friends (which he's repeatedly broken so eventually I just got over it), no male friends, no parties and we tell each other everything. I know that he loves me alot, and I mean alot, and I love him very much too. He moved away from me after our anniversary so our relationship is distant and some of the rules have had to be stretched.

Here's the problem: At least on my side
He broke our minimum requirements. For months I've been used to him calling me all the time, at a certain time, every day. He started going out with his friends, playing soccer, and doing other crap that I cant be involved with because he lives so far away. He works the night shift and Im an early sleeper, so our time alternates, and obviously since he was doing all this stuff he didnt have time to call me anymore. When he did that crap started happening to me, I mean like stuff that hurts ur feelings not your body and we'd been talking for so long that he became my best friend and I told him everything that happened to me because he would always make me feel better even when I didnt want to. But when he started hanging out with his friends he wouldnt pick up the phone, or if he did, he had to go immediately. I was hurt, and I didnt have anyone to talk to, and one night, feeling distanced and tired of asking him to pay attention to me i took things

My Solution
My old boyfriend before him was the guy he stole me from for pretty much the same issues. My old bf and I had a strong friendship just like my current bf so I had no issue finding someone to listen to me in place of my neglecting bf. I went over to my old bf's house and spent the day there, we didnt have sex or anything we played video games, basketball and I did his hair. My bf was raging mad and I loved it, I wanted him to know that I wanted his attention and I would get it one way or another. I wasnt going to do anything with my old bf, he has it in his head that I'm above sex with him anyhow and thats the way it really is.

My bf said that I took advantage if the fact that he would never leave me, but all I was doing was trying to get his attention. SURE I used my old bf who he's not comfortable with, but who else would he have responded to like this. Now he calls me all the time, sure he's accusing me of hanging out with my old bf again (and Im not) but he sure as hell got the point eh?

Am I taking advantage of him? This is only my side he'll put his up later

[imnoxonesmemory]

no offence but your relationship doesnt seem very loving. your rules are crazy. having set rules about when you call each other?
and i can understand what you did about hanging out with yor EX. i would've done that too, but it is mean. haha

long distance relationships can't have rules. because you'll never know when they're broken. and having rules makes them feel even more trapped.

goodluck though