horrible dad Options

[PlasticPiolet]

Alot people have told me i have all these things girls wants that they don't, and i have a loving father who care for me alots blah blah blah. i know my dad so well! everytime i was trying to talk to him about having a boyfriend he scream and shout at me! and later on when he founds out i was going out with someone, he screams at me more! he said i am only allowed a boyfriend when i am eighteen, and i am only allow to go out with guys that goes to university. well, it's not like he's going to choose who i marry to right?

So, now that i am nearly 18, i have a boyfriend.. and my parent's has left to live in aussie on tuesday, but they pretty much expect me to go on msn every night so they can talk to me, i totally understand what they're thinking. but what i don't understand is, why can't i be like a normal 17 year olds kid that allows to hangs with the mates at night time? it's not like i am doing anything wrong like taking drugs or smoking and things like that.

I've live my whole life wondering why is it so horrible? sometimes he's nice sometimes he's just, woah, horrible! and a few minutes ago he just told me from now on, he doesn't want to know me anymore, and my mum is crying :/ which is so awful cause i love her so much! she understands the most.. i heard him saying to my mum "don't try to beg me to talk to her, i don't want to f**king know her anymore just f**k off! you can cry all you want but don't beg me and if you do i will f**king beat the shit out of you" horrible isn't it? i have a loving family nobody in my family ever beats anyone up, i was just so surprise he can even say that! sometimes i don't want to live life anymore, it's not worth it at all!

It's like, he wants me to live up to his expectation, for example: go to school, go to the best university in town, find a good job, find a boyfriend who goes to university. i know that every parents wish to have a perfect child. but i just can't try to be someone who i am not! and i have no brothers or sisters, everytime i try to talk to them/him, all he does is yell at me

horrible life

[dustbunny]

college/university =/= guaranteed great career or job. tons of other factors come into play for determining the success of a person. your father with the dating after 18? he's most likely just looking out for you, most parents don't allow their children to date for generally good reasons but always fail to explain them to their children; that's why the majority of teens have issues with dating restrictions. because they don't understand why their parents say no to dating they feel as if the rule is stupid and obviously invalid since there's no real good reason for it. the reasons exist and I'm sure your dad is just looking out for you.

on the other hand, your father does not seem like a guy with the best temperament in town but he obviously cares enough about you to want to talk to you everynight on msn or whatever. I hope you talk to your dad about this one day because obviously if your current track in life isn't working out, something has to change. If you're ever going to talk about finding a job that's more suitable to your desires or taking classes at a local college, do NOT bring up your boyfriend. Don't use him as an example because it will only further infuriate your dad. you have to let him know why your current situation isn't working: whether it's academically the courses are too advanced or you're uninterested in the subject or whatever, you know the reasons. whatever you do, special examples do not count. yeah bill gates dropped out of harvard and made it big, yeah people win the lottery all the time; is that reason enough to spend all your life savings on the lottery? no. there are special cases out there but you can't use them as your model. you need to let your dad know what sort of changes you need because of what isn't working out now.