Stuck in the Past, still in love with my ex Options

[Piccola]

Hi,

I would like to share with you the things I`m passing through at the moment. I'm married and I have even a son. My husband really loves me and if he could he would even get the moon if I ask for it. Where is the problem? I`m not happy. I'm stucked in the past. I met him 8 years ago, I loved him from the first day i saw him . We became good friends. Best Friends, I used to tell him everything, he knew me inside out. We used to go out together, share anything. He was my soulmate. Both knew we were in love but none of us ever said that we were.... Maybe because if we had said that we loved each other, the spell would have been broken. It was very stupid not to confess our feelings and to remain bestfrieds for ever. After 2 years in this situation I met my husband. We started a relationship which was very different from that I had with Drew.Drew said he was very happy for me and that he hope to find love as well. I thought I love my husband, and I do love him but I am not in love with him as I was with Drew. After 3 months we were together one day Drew told me he was in love with me and that he was afraid of losing me. I cried, I didn`t know what to do, I still loved Drew, but couldn`t leave my husband... at that time I thought the best thing was to go on with my husband and try to forget Drew. That was the last time I saw Drew. Years passed and I got married, but my love for Drew never left me. He has a girlfried but still ask for me whenever he meets my friends. Now about 3 months ago we found each other on line. We chatted and sent emails, and found out that although 6 years have passed we are still in love and we will always be. I'm desperate.. I don`t know what to do.
Please help

Thanks
Piccola

[Kontroll]

First of all. This is the wrong place to go. This is more for highschool drama relationships, than anything else. Sorry, nerds, but it is. After everything I've read, sorry to tell you.

Secondly, it's good that you're staying with your husband, I can't blame you for that. It shows your character as a person, and it seems that you're an outstanding person.

But at the same time, really what you're doing is lying to yourself, your husband, your buddy Drew, and your son. I understand that staying together for the sake of your child is important. But think about it. If you're still together down the road, still unhappy, and still in love with another person, you're just cheating everyone out of a relationship that deserves it from their mother, and wife.

I'm not telling you what you should or should not do. That's entirely up to you. But, in this day and age, divorce is a common thing. Almost every married person I know has had a divorce. Not that they are bad people, but people rush into things, or they are just not as selfless as they had thought.

I'm not a f**king marriage couselor. My word obviously should not be set in stone. Neither should anyone here. But yours is. If you feel that staying with your husband is the right thing, then it must be so. Because you shouldn't be living your life for what could have been, or for other people in that fact, unless it's your family.

Really, what I think you should do is talk it over with some one who has more knowledge of this area. Teen age kids are not your answer. Talk to your parents, or a pastor or something. Some one who has been through it. They will guide you where you need to go. Truely.

I sinscerely hope you find what you want. Don't let what could happen to your child mentally have anything to do with this, because from what I've found... Most kids, if brought up right, will not suffer anything from a divorce. Granted they still see both parental figures. But listen, if you want to talk more just pm me.

I'll try to give you what ever you need. Good luck.