Was I wrong? Options

[Ashley_Brook]

My boyfriend and I had sex yesterday afternoon and he got off early and I didn't get off at all. After he got off, we stopped and he told me he owed me one for that later. I giggled and said ok and then we had some other stuff to do. Well later that night, he gets tired and we get in bed and he starts to fall asleep. I asked him, "You aren't going to sleep, are you?" Then he said, "I have to be at work in 6 hours." Then I said, "Hey you owed me one!" and he said, "Right now??? I'm tired and work a physically exhausting job." Then I just got kind of huffy and turned over and went to sleep. Then like 15 mins later, he starts touching me down there, and I said, "Hey you don't have to if you don't want to." Then he stopped and went to sleep.

Now this morning, as he was just getting ready for work....I didn't talk to him but he was kind of seeming pissed off and left without saying goodbye to me....and I'm just wondering if I was totally wrong in this situation or what.

[NoSex]

i dont think you're in the wrong. if he said he was tired & had to be at work "in 6 hours" why would he start touching you? he obviously was ready to go to sleep so why would he bother starting something he wasn't really into?

He began touching her because she demonstrated displeasure with his position. If he was tired and had priorities in the morning, she shouldn't have made it so obvious that she was upset. This creates a sense of guilt, wrong-doing, and tension - and, none of that is healthy, especially given the context of the situation. Because he clearly likes this girl, he decided, because she was so upset, to try to please her. It wasn't a contradiction, it was a compromise and a gesture of apology/love. To chastise him for trying to please his girlfriend is lunacy - and, that's how he felt when she responded negatively to his advances.

Needs and wants can wait, anything else is just pure selfishness (and isn't conductive to a healthy relationship). Work, however, will not wait. So, I'm sorry, again, but the OP was "in the wrong."