Different beliefs? Options

[DeadlyKitten]

me and my boyfriend both believe in God...but me being a christian i believe in Jesus and a whole lot more. he doesnt really consider himself to be a religion. i believe that sex, and everything to do with sex should be saved for marridge. we've done stuff and even had sex but i had to stop because it was going against my beliefs. he still wants me to give him bj's and he still wants to touch me down there...i'm like...anymore...just not wanting to. i'm worried that if i say i want to stop anything sexual...that he'll leave me...or even worse cheat. i love him and he loves me..but its like...i'm forcing myself to do things to him...its almost not fair. like in my oppinion true love waits....but at this point...i dont think he will. what should i do??? i'm so worried about it. i'm not turining this into a God thing...so don't call me stupid for what i believe...its just that...since we dont believe things the same way...i'm worried if i stop all sexual things with him he'll cheat or leave.

[Sprague]

like in my oppinion true love waits....but at this point...i dont think he will.

Didn't you just answer yourself right there? If it is true love, then he'd wait. But you're saying you don't think he'd wait, meaning he isn't your true love.

Honestly, if he wants you to do things that are against your religion and beliefs, and doesn't respect your wishes, then he isn't worth it at all. (That's probably not something you'd want to hear, but its the truth) Communication is the key element to any relationship, so you should talk to him about this -- how you feel. If any guy would leave you just because you won't have sex with him, does this not tell you something? To me, that's like saying sex is all he wants from you, and you deserve better than that.