Emotional / Physical, which one sucks more Options

[roxyy]

Ok so cheating in general sucks, but which one do you think hurts more emotional or physical cheating?

im kinda leaning on the emotional side but then again idk. i think in some ways it can be pretty even.

[Melissa]

Physical.

If somebody cheated on you physically, it's like a slap in the face. Was your emotional connection not enough to keep him tfaithful? Are you not satisfying him? Obviously his commitment to you wasn't as strong as you thought it was. So if somebody has the balls to go and sleep with somebody else while we're ogether, then something is obviously wrong with the relationship.

Emotional cheating I can understand, as painful as it might be. Emotions aren't really something that someone can control. And the very fact that it's purely emotional and hasn't manifested in a physical relationship with that someone else says a lot. I'd just prefer it if whoever I was with decided to be upfront with me about it rather than let their emotions fester into something that might become ugly, because the more time that passes, the more invested I am in our relationship, and if he's not fully there, that's going to be a problem.

And another thing about physical cheating - don't give me that bullshit alcohol excuse. I've been there, done that, and completely understand. Your inhibitions are all gone and you may do something stupid that you regret, but what alcohol does is amplify something that you're already feeling, thinking, etc. So if a guy goes to a bar, gets drunk, and sleeps with someone else, that tendency was probably already there and it's the alcohol that set it free. That means that obviously, his connection with you (me) isn't strong enough to suppress his sexual desires for somebody else, so f**k him and let him f**k whoever he wants, because our relationship is over.

[libertie]

Physical.

If somebody cheated on you physically, it's like a slap in the face. Was your emotional connection not enough to keep him tfaithful? Are you not satisfying him? Obviously his commitment to you wasn't as strong as you thought it was. So if somebody has the balls to go and sleep with somebody else while we're ogether, then something is obviously wrong with the relationship.

Emotional cheating I can understand, as painful as it might be. Emotions aren't really something that someone can control. And the very fact that it's purely emotional and hasn't manifested in a physical relationship with that someone else says a lot. I'd just prefer it if whoever I was with decided to be upfront with me about it rather than let their emotions fester into something that might become ugly, because the more time that passes, the more invested I am in our relationship, and if he's not fully there, that's going to be a problem.

And another thing about physical cheating - don't give me that bullshit alcohol excuse. I've been there, done that, and completely understand. Your inhibitions are all gone and you may do something stupid that you regret, but what alcohol does is amplify something that you're already feeling, thinking, etc. So if a guy goes to a bar, gets drunk, and sleeps with someone else, that tendency was probably already there and it's the alcohol that set it free. That means that obviously, his connection with you (me) isn't strong enough to suppress his sexual desires for somebody else, so f**k him and let him f**k whoever he wants, because our relationship is over.

Pretty much the thoughts (at least what I was trying to convey) from my post exactly except worded better. :3

The alcohol thing, if you put yourself in a testy situation and let yourself get that shitfaced drunk, I don't care what your excuse is, you were being stupid and are fully responsible for your actions. It's still careless and it still hurts just as much.