gahh.. Options

[Vanneh]

Life is a real pain right now. Losing friends, grades are dropping, finals.. blekk. There's a few things bugging me right now that i seriously need help with. Whoever gives me advice I would like to thank them very much in advance since I probably won't have lots of time to do it later. Anyways..

So I liked this girl. She was like my best friend and she made my day everything time I saw her without knowing. Before i got with my previous girlfriend I liked her but I just thought it was a little crush. Then after i broke up with my girlfriend, she was there like a true friend. I began to like her again. Not just a little crush or anything, but I liked her more and more by the week. Soon enough my ex girlfriend found out and told her. I was surprised, because it happened to me a few times, but my ex girlfriend saw me as her best friend and it shocked me. So my best friend just stopped talking to me. It's like we saw each other and saw each other as we were both invisible. I don't even know if we're still friends, and if we are.. I know it just not the same. I actually can say that I love her. I want to keep trying but it seems kind of pointless know. I don't really know what to do. Please help. Thanks.

[dustbunny]

your best friend could be thinking that you're rebounding on her. of course, no one knows whether or not that's true besides you, so if it's not the case, talk to her and tell her that's not the case.

ignore your ex-gf, she did what she did and you're not going to be able to change anything by getting into an argument about it; you would just be prolonging something that doesn't need to be given any more attention to. move on. instead, focus your attention on how you can fix your friendship with your friend. all prospects of a potential relationship needs to be put off until you pull everything together in all other aspects of your life: grades, finals, whatever, and most importantly your friendship with her. you need to clarify your position and find out the reason behind her elusiveness.