White Guys Hitting on Asian Girls at Asian Parties Options

[Tung]

What an inflammatory subject heading. I'm sure everyone will have lots to say on this. So tell me, what is the deal with white guys who frequent Asian parties hitting on Asian women. I was at a gathering last week for a Happy Hour and this white guy approaches two of my female friends as well as myself, one after another, each sequentially about 10 minutes apart. Extremely persistent and easily offended, he became irate when nobody would give him time of day.

So, what gives? Does he deserve to be treated meanly by Asian women for being the only white guy at an Asian function? Is the fact that he is there indicative of an Asian fetish? Or, are we too harsh to non-Asians at such events in general? I suppose none of the girls would have been so mean to him if he had been just normal and friendly. However, he was very slimy (and not at all attractive incidentally) and appeared to be "on the prowl". Is/was our intolerance some sort of reverse racial discrimination? I must point out however, that if I had been introduced to him through friends at the gathering, I am sure I would not have been the way I was to him. What does everyone think?

[Gigi]

But...he didn't have to impregnate someone to get a puppy. He has to have money to get a puppy.

Money...pregnancy...let's weigh the pros and cons...haha.

Maybe he thought you were older than your...18 years and thought you'd be impressed that he was a good daddy. Either way it's still creepy and weird.

The 'isolated' white guys in my school (i.e., the guys that don't hang out with Asians at all) would probably think that Asian girls like me are more submissive. Which is a total joke, of course.

The way I see it, there are two types of Asians: white-washed Asians and normal Asians. I consider myself normal, wherein I exhibit both 'white' and 'Asian' characteristics. The isolated white guys that show up at the party will know the white-washed Asians from the normal ones. Maybe they will hit on the normal Asians, but it would probably be a joke that they could laugh at. And the normal Asian girls would know that they're a bunch of dicks that don't take normal Asian girls seriously. So yeah we'd blow them off.

They might also hit on the white-washed Asian girls, but it's really not much different than a white guy hitting on a white girl, so this is not an issue.

I guess what I'm trying to say is...if the white guy is going to think we're going to fall immediately for their amazing white-guy charm (I mean, think that we're submissive and can be controlled), then we're going to find it unattractive. Most girls I know aren't turned on by guys that make them feel intimidated or give off the feeling of being cocky and arrogant, regardless of race.

Let's just say that, if there was a normal white guy who didn't have all these weird preconceived notions about Asian girls and treated them normally, there would be no problem. For the record, I know a few of these people and I wouldn't feel offended if they ever hit on me at a party.