Help! I have a friend and she's in trouble..., She's being pressured. Options

[luminax3]

I'm friends with a really good person. I will not mention her name though, oh and it's not me lol. But yeah. Anyways, she's 16 and she has a really good boyfriend whom I met, and he's the sweetest guy ever to her. He treats her so well and he's such a gentlemen. But they have not had sex yet. But lately people at my school have asked her questions like "Would you ever blow a guy?" or "Would you ever give head?" Usually she'll just say no. That she does not like it. She doesn't find anything gross and knows that it's a very loving feeling for a lot of couples. But she doesn't wanna do it. And her and her bf talked about it and he doesn't like the idea of her putting that in her mouth. He doesn't want her to do it and she doesn't wanna do it so everythings peachy right? Well not really. Because just the other day a guy had insulted her and disrespected her saying "Your really stupid. You know your gonna suck a guy off one day. So stop saying you wont. Your making yourself look stupid and you'll never get a guy to love you." And her friend told him to piss off and stuff but ever since then. She keeps thinking she's not normal or anything. And ALOT of times she would follow her heart and do the things she wants to or whatever she's comfortable with. Her bf got really pissed though and he wanted to beat the guy up. And he told her that its ok. that he'll never do something like that and that everything will be ok cuz its him and her. not him, her and other people. She trusts him so much but sometimes in class she'll think about it too hard and wonder if she's wrong for this. and i dont know what to tell her.

Oh and she's not one of those immature wishy washy girls. She's very mature for her age and she knows what shes doing.

Positive advice please? No "tell her to do it. its normal." kinda crap.
thank you.

[S-Majere]

I really feel for your friend, she's obviously being pressured into considoring doing something that normally she wouldn't.

But they have not had sex yet.

There shouldn't really be a "yet", sex is not a necessary prerequisite to a relationship - it's a natural part of one and something that teenagers feel way too pressurised into doing before they're ready.

It's great that this boy is treating your friend well, but that's not enough on which to throw away any inhibitions and give in to these other teens who're making fun of her for not being sexually active.

THERE ARE PLENTY OF TEENAGERS THAT HAVEN'T HAD SEX. Your friend is not alone.

Remember that if your friend decides to go ahead with any sexual activities, than she should make sure that she is practising safe sex and that she knows all of the consequences - both physical and the emotional.