Oral Sex? Is it wrong for me to not give head? Options

[SAMANTHAfamous]

In my personal opinion, I really don't want to give head/oral sex to ANY guy. I think it's disgusting but no offense to other girls who do it. I just don't like, I don't want to do it, and i've been with my boyfriend for 10 months already and we've talked about this. He said he understands me and that he respects me far too much to ever let me do that. But some people and "friends" pressure me to do it. And just the other day this guy told me "All girls will blow a guy. You'll do it someday." It made me feel really uncomfortable and the thought of myself ever doing it is even more uncomfortable. I don't know what to do. I just don't like and I also want to know if there's older girls out there from ages 19 and up to tell me if they don't like it either. I need to know if i'm alone on this.

[Elba]

You have 69 posts. It's a sign

You're really young. Perhaps when you're a little older, you'll be more open to the idea of oral sex (I don't mean for that to sound condescending or anything). How long have oyu been with your boyfriend and how long have you two been having sex? It took me a long time to finally agree to do the whole oral sex thing with my ex. I had to get over fearing it would be uncomfortable.

[SAMANTHAfamous]

You have 69 posts. It's a sign

You're really young. Perhaps when you're a little older, you'll be more open to the idea of oral sex. How long have oyu been with your boyfriend and how long have you two been having sex? It took me a long time to finally agree to do the whole oral sex thing with my ex. I had to get over fearing it would be uncomfortable.

OMG SHUT UP!!!

That's not cool mann! lol. jk
Well we've been together for 10 months, but it's not really a fear of being uncomfortable. It's just the fear of degrading myself and more.

But neither of us want that (me giving him head).

There are few guys out there that don't want girls to give them oral sex. Maybe he's one of them, you never know.

But like I said before, this whole controversy began with "Peer Pressure", not because he wants me to do it or we're too young for this. It's a whole matter of choice. But alas am I wrong for this choice? Oral sex isn't me. It doesn't fit with who I am and it's not for me. Even if I did do it, there's no joy for me OR him. If that makes any sense.

[Tung]

It's just the fear of degrading myself and more.

If you think having oral sex is degrading, then maybe your intentions for doing it is wrong. You aren't ready for it clearly. Once you learn that oral sex is a mutual feeling and the act of love for one another, and not a degrading thing to do, then sorry, you aren't ready.

[SAMANTHAfamous]

If you think having oral sex is degrading, then maybe your intentions for doing it is wrong. You aren't ready for it clearly. Once you learn that oral sex is a mutual feeling and the act of love for one another, and not a degrading thing to do, then sorry, you aren't ready.

Well to me, people are entitled to their own opinions. I know it's a mutual feeling and alot of couples do it because they love each other. But me being abnormal and all...I won't say i'll never do it, but I wouldn't like to do it because I love him. It sounds weird, yes I know but that's the way I feel. It's hard for someone to tell me likewise.

[Tung]

Well to me, people are entitled to their own opinions. I know it's a mutual feeling and alot of couples do it because they love each other. But me being abnormal and all...I won't say i'll never do it, but I wouldn't like to do it because I love him. It sounds weird, yes I know but that's the way I feel. It's hard for someone to tell me likewise.

I know what you are saying. I've never asked any of my ex to ever have oral sex with me. I've never eatin' a girl, and I've never received head. To me, I just don't like it, and it's a choice. So I know where you are coming from. Trust me. It's understandable.