Boyfriend's female BFF, =/ Options

[Melissa]

Ok, just to set things straight, the guy in question isnt my boyfriend, never was my boyfriend, and never will be my boyfriend. I did like him a bit at one point in time, but whatever was between us pretty much fizzled out.

The thing that bugs me is that during that time period when things between us were pretty tense, I had a conversation about him with his best friend (who's female) online and she said something that really bothered me. I had gotten to know her the previous semester and consider her a pretty good friend of mine as well; she apparently has some history with this guy that I really don't want to get into right now. But here's how the conversation went:

Her: If he ever has babies, I'm gonna shake them.
Me: DON'T BE SHAKING MY BABIES, HO!
Me: lol
Her: Hm, actually, nvm
Her: If he had babies with you, I wouldn't need to shake them.
Her: bc I know the first thing you'll teach them is that I'll always be number one in his life.
Me: Wait... so you think you'd be more important to him than his future kids. Srsly?
Her: Yes.
Me: You'd be more important to him than his girlfriend and/or future wife?
Her: Uh, duh. I've always come first. Girlfriends come and go, but I've always been there, so I'll always be number one.


At the time, I kind of laughed it off, but seriously... I think that's kind of messed up. I guess she does a good job chasing off all his potential girlfriends. And, come to think of it, after that conversation, I started liking him a lot less than I did.

Opinions?

[Glamourouz]

I agree with Karma...if you liked him you should've pursued it & not have given her the satisfaction of thinking she'd always come first. I know plenty of guys who are best friends with females but put their girlfriend first; if they don't then they might have a thing for their best friend as well. Me personally, I'd never come between my boyfriend & his friends b/c I'm not that type & wouldn't want him to do it to me, but since I'm a female & know how triflin females can be toward each other & I know how "nice" of a person he can be, I'd be darned if I sit & let some triqk friend of his take my place or ever think she could. When you want something you have to stand your ground; females play too many mind games & half the time they don't even want the guy, they just don't want you to have them.