Tung Needs Help, Regretting a Relationship Options

[Tung]

After I graduated high school, I was still in the middle of a relationship that was 8 month strong. It was the longest relationship I've ever been in. That summer I was getting ready to move away, and start off college, while my ex was becoming a senior in high school. Yes, she was one year younger than me. We decided that the whole long distance thing wouldn't work out, and it would be unfair for the both of use to continue the relationship knowing full well that once we got our ways, we would find other people. We broke up that summer after 9 long months. It was the greatest 9 months in my whole 19 years I've ever lived so far.

Even since that relationship, I've had two others. One lasting only a month, and another lasting 3 months. I was never quite as happy with these two relationships I had, as I was with the one I had during my senior year in high school. Lately, I been single for quite some time now, and I just feel depressed nowadays. I think about my relationship with my ex I had 2 years ago, and I wished we never broke up in the first place. I wished I had tried harder to make the long distance work. She was the greatest thing that ever happened to me, and I blew it. Sometimes it's really hard to find interests in other girls, when I go out, and the girls are like totally hitting on me, but I just ignore them. That's because I still have feelings for my high school ex.

I don't know what I should do here. I mean I haven't talk to her in 2 years, and I know for sure she's still single, and haven't dated anyone since we broke up. I know because I still check her facebook, and myspace and word of mouth from her friends. I need opinions and a little help here on how I should approach her and this situation. How do I tell her I want to be together again. I mean I'm afraid she might reject me, and not want me after these long two years.

I don't know. I just been really sad these past weeks, and regretting I ever made the decision to break up with her. I mean we both agree to break up that summer, but it was me who brought up the idea. She wanted to try to long distance for a while and see how it goes, but I never gave it a try. Sigh..any help would be great here.

[xTINAA]

I agree with what Christina said. I might repeat some things, so sorry if I do :D

Well, I think it'd be best to approach as a friend, so you don't come on too strong. Especially because you two haven't had any communication with each other for so long. Let her see the guy she liked so much during those nine months and then work up the courage to tell her how much you miss her. Like Christina said, I think it'll make her feel good to know that you've been thinking about her all this time. Don't rush into it though and get ahead of yourself because I think it will be really important to show her that you're going to remain a constant in her life and that you really care. Plus, since you two haven't spoken in so long, you might have to almost re-establish a friendship first for there to be any hopes of a second relationship. Also, try to be optimistic about the whole situation but don't get your hopes up. I don't mean that in a mean way, I'm just saying don't get too worked up about it because there is a chance it won't work out, BUT at the same time, it could. I don't know how to explain that very well but one of my friends always gets her hopes up way too high so if something doesn't meet her expectations or go exactly how she planned, she gets really hurt. I wouldn't want to see you get hurt =)

Anyways, don't be scared because even if the end you risk your own feelings for hopes of a new relationship, it will be worth it to find out the answer. Good luck =)