Really.. Lost Options

[dpl313]

So I've went out on a few dates recently with a couple of girls. The dates seem to go well, but when we talk about relationships and what not.. I get confused. Mainly because when I date it's for the hopes of getting into a serious relationship.

But I've been told by some girls different things like

- I don't make a good gf
- I'm not ready for commitment, because I don't want a jealous bf
- I just want friendships right now

So I listen to girls say those excuses, but at times I'll get a girl to ask me for advice about a guy while on the date. Most of the time it's simple questions like why won't the guy commit, etc. I've tried to make the effort to show that I want to be more than a friend, but things don't turn out well.

Most recently I have a female friend I've went out with more than any of my female friends. I like her a lot. At times she'll blow me off and at times she'll want to hangout. When we hangout there are times when I swear she shows signs of interest. I told her how I feel recently, and she put me in the friends category. She told me she got out of a relationship in August, and she was saying she was working out personal issues. I keep thinking what does that have to do with anything when it's pretty much April??

Like a dummy I woke up this morning and I had her on my mind. I called her and she was on her way to church. We talked briefly. You could tell I called at a bad time, but she was just giggling at some of the stuff I was saying. I really wanna be with her... but how do I get out of the friends category??

Also, my cousin has been observing my situation with dating. He keeps telling me I should just go out and get laid. He keeps saying I'm too young to want a serious relationship, and all I should be worried about is being out for the screw. He's 18 and I'm 21. At first I kept saying you're wrong. But I don't know anymore. Should I just be out for screwing chicks??

[Glamourouz]

You are 21, not 31; just chill (despite your past experiences; they happen to everyone) & keep dating and when I say dating I mean date multiple people; not screw, but go out; that way you can eliminate the people that aren't on the same page as you are & focus on the ones that are until something happens...stop analyzing, asking people uncomfortable questions, etc. just chill, take your time, stop thinking "I have to find a girlfriend", blah blah blah & just think "I'd like to get to know this female" & just let everything fall into place...being desperate & too much is always a turn off...Some females just want to have fun & then there are some females who feel the same as you...you just have to get to that female...one day, maybe not today, tomorrow, this month, this yr, but one day...