friends coming out, ... Options

[Danielle-Son]

A couple of my friends have come out saying they're gay/ bi recently and it's not that I don't support them because I do. I don't see them any differently, to me they're just the same person. It's what all of our other friends think and say about it. I try so see it from everyone involved's point of view...but I can't say the same for everyone else. It's complicated...both of the people who came out were involved with each other at one point or another, but one got dumped on severely. They're still really close friends. In fact the one currently has a girlfriend (the reason she dumped on the other)who won't listen to her takes out all her emotion on the other friend who doesn't deserve that kind of friendship when all she does is be happy for her. And I can't stand seeing her like in total control of my other friend, but she's like an emotional train wreck and I really want to confront her about things, but I don't know how without making her like seriously depressed.

It also pisses me off when my guy friends say all the girls on the sports teams I play for are butch and lesbian...but it's like all falling apart around me and coming true. But that's the beside the point anyway...

Any advice if you bothered to read and can understand that mess?...

[wildncrazyath3rt]

okay wow. first thing you should let them know that you care for them and like tell them that if anything happens you would be there for them. I have a lot of pepole that are Gay/Lesbian in my school and they talk to each other to help each other out. I see that your trying to help with the persons feelings .. but that always doest help. I was kinda the same position awhile ago... what i did is say " im here for you no matter what happens" also i kinda backed off. When someone admits that they are like that its their choice.

Also some don't like to be with somune that likes to pour their emotions on them.. and then in the end they dont help them.
When you want to help them.. i know its going to be hard to talk to them.. and not make them sad. But when they want help or advice that is the best thing they could get at that time.

The comment on the soccer team.. just ignore that. They do that to harrass you and its not right. I mean if its gets worse tell a adult


if you need anymore help.. let me know. =]