friends coming out, ... Options

[Danielle-Son]

A couple of my friends have come out saying they're gay/ bi recently and it's not that I don't support them because I do. I don't see them any differently, to me they're just the same person. It's what all of our other friends think and say about it. I try so see it from everyone involved's point of view...but I can't say the same for everyone else. It's complicated...both of the people who came out were involved with each other at one point or another, but one got dumped on severely. They're still really close friends. In fact the one currently has a girlfriend (the reason she dumped on the other)who won't listen to her takes out all her emotion on the other friend who doesn't deserve that kind of friendship when all she does is be happy for her. And I can't stand seeing her like in total control of my other friend, but she's like an emotional train wreck and I really want to confront her about things, but I don't know how without making her like seriously depressed.

It also pisses me off when my guy friends say all the girls on the sports teams I play for are butch and lesbian...but it's like all falling apart around me and coming true. But that's the beside the point anyway...

Any advice if you bothered to read and can understand that mess?...

[Melie]

well...it sounds to me like you are a true friend to these two so might i suggest keep being a friend but also don't be afraid to tell them the truth. if it was you, you would probably expect them to do the same for you. just keep them aware of the fact that you care very much for them and you don't want your friendship to be ruined but you're just concerned. good luck!