best friends ex, should I? |
 Mar 9 2008, 02:09 PM
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My best friend is in a new relationship and I asked her if it would be okay if I pursued anything with her exboyfriend.
She said it was fine. They only dated for a month a year ago and now they're really great friends, so I feel like it's okay. But there's the rule of "never date a friends ex" so I'm scared. Especially 'cause when she gets in a bad mood she'll laugh and joke about getting back with him (even though she hated dating him, she was too mellow for his craziness). Should I pursue anything? I don't want to make her feel bad, but I really do like him. |
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Mar 9 2008, 08:18 PM
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If she only dated him for a month a year ago, then it doesn't seem like it was ever serious. What I think is bitchy is that she would joke about getting with him when she's feeling crabby.
I would go for it. There's no such thing as best friends, anyways. |
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Mar 9 2008, 09:18 PM
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QUOTE(heartquasm @ Mar 9 2008, 07:18 PM)  I would go for it. There's no such thing as best friends, anyways. That says a lot about you. |
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Mar 13 2008, 07:00 PM
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QUOTE(BrandonSaunders @ Mar 9 2008, 10:18 PM) That says a lot about you. Not really, except for the fact that I've had a so-called best friend stab me in the back and therefore don't care much for the entire idea of "best friend" anymore. If that's what you got from what I said, then yeah, I guess you're right and it says a lot about me. Besides that, why shouldn't she go for it? Liking and being with a guy isn't this whole idealistic thing with exact rules and clear-cut boundaries. Sure, you generally don't go after your friend's ex, but this guy was with her best friend for ONE MONTH. That's pretty minuscule. It's not like she can completely control what she feels towards this guy and it isn't like she didn't ASK her friend if it was okay. I think it's a pretty bitchy thing for her friend to keep holding on to whatever scrap of relationship she had with this guy to swing in front of her whenever she gets a bit pissy. It's like... okay, you guys tried, you guys didn't work out, it's been a year, it's about time to move on. |
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Mar 23 2008, 06:45 PM
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QUOTE(heartquasm @ Mar 13 2008, 06:00 PM) Besides that, why shouldn't she go for it? Liking and being with a guy isn't this whole idealistic thing with exact rules and clear-cut boundaries. Sure, you generally don't go after your friend's ex, but this guy was with her best friend for ONE MONTH. That's pretty minuscule. It's not like she can completely control what she feels towards this guy and it isn't like she didn't ASK her friend if it was okay. I think it's a pretty bitchy thing for her friend to keep holding on to whatever scrap of relationship she had with this guy to swing in front of her whenever she gets a bit pissy. It's like... okay, you guys tried, you guys didn't work out, it's been a year, it's about time to move on. I second that. Honestly, if your best friend has a boyfriend already, then she shouldn't care, espcially if she said she wouldn't care. I think everyone else is freaking out too much. But you really should only pursue him if you like him a lottish. Otherwise it's just a waste of time. |
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ALittleUnknown best friends ex Mar 9 2008, 02:09 PM
superficial No! You never go out with your best friend... Mar 9 2008, 02:16 PM
danceeNAKED QUOTE(superficial @ Mar 9 2008, 03:16 PM)... Mar 9 2008, 04:55 PM Synesthesia Don't. It's not worth it, especially since... Mar 9 2008, 03:00 PM tungmyBANANA yes you should. he has a dick right? if you want s... Mar 9 2008, 03:03 PM babecakes the recycle program huh, yuck. Mar 9 2008, 03:56 PM agiri depends how much you like him.
if its interest, i... Mar 9 2008, 04:49 PM Steven friends w/ benefits. suck his cock. Mar 9 2008, 05:23 PM carolannexbh QUOTE(Steven @ Mar 9 2008, 05:23 PM) frie... Mar 9 2008, 07:16 PM BrandonSaunders QUOTE(carolannexbh @ Mar 9 2008, 06:16 PM... Mar 9 2008, 07:18 PM BrandonSaunders Depends.
How serious was their relationship? Mar 9 2008, 07:15 PM Flaunted I think it really depends on what type of person y... Mar 9 2008, 07:57 PM melodyus it's a rule for gurls. never. it always seems ... Mar 9 2008, 08:05 PM melodyus i dated a guy for a month & then one of my fri... Mar 9 2008, 08:25 PM th5418 Go for it. While you're at it, go out with you... Mar 10 2008, 02:32 AM Tamacracker i see a thread being made by the thread author in ... Mar 13 2008, 07:02 PM S-Majere Yikes, I really would leave this one alone. Mar 14 2008, 06:32 AM misoshiru everyone always says it's "fine". i... Mar 14 2008, 10:37 AM nguoicasison QUOTE(ALittleUnknown @ Mar 9 2008, 03:09 ... Mar 19 2008, 07:41 AM fosheezy ahh, don't pursue anything.
it may have been a... Mar 20 2008, 06:29 AM chrislagace don't date the ex (even though you're prob... Mar 20 2008, 10:51 AM guessewho disaster waiting to happen Mar 20 2008, 03:14 PM RissyMel She says she wont care.
go for it, I did.
ha
If it... Mar 21 2008, 09:22 PM tungmyBANANA QUOTE(RissyMel @ Mar 21 2008, 07:22 PM) S... Mar 21 2008, 09:25 PM RissyMel QUOTE(tungmyBANANA @ Mar 21 2008, 10:25 P... Mar 21 2008, 09:52 PM yrrnotelekktric I wouldn`t. I would just find it too awkward. Mar 23 2008, 05:22 PM Heathasm i went out with my friend's ex and now we are ... Mar 23 2008, 05:25 PM |
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