Stepsons banned from dating until they are 17 Options

[dannyt]

My stepsons step sons are banned from dating until they are over the age of 17. If I were to permit them from dating I'm convinced they would become sexual active.

[kayleighjay]

Preventing your stepsons from dating in order to keep them from participating in sexual acts is probably the worst thing you could do. In my opinion at least, and as a 16 year old, I like to think I have some insight to what is going on in your stepsons' heads.

Like any other thing you try to put out of their reach, telling them that dating is forbidden will only make the pull to do so even stronger. "Forbidden love is the greatest." There are thousands of ways for them to date behind your back. And even more ways for them to have sex behind your back. Its so easy now-a-days. Society has come to accept precarious sexual activity as the norm. Do you really think that teenagers wouldn't turn their head and choose not to notice as a boy and girl lock themselves in a bedroom at a party, or even a simple get together? Really now.

If you don't want your stepsons to EVER have sex, you might as well purchase a few chastity belts, and chain them to their bed posts. Because unless you sit ontop of them 24/7 they'll find a way if they want to badly enough.

If you truely are trying to look out for them, talk to them. Tell them how sex should be reserved for love, or atleast till they are older. Explain the ways to practice safe sex. Explain the consequences that can result from jumping in bed. Show them pictures, statistics, and tell them stories. Try to scare them by being brutally honest. And then finally trust them to make the right decision. That's the only way they're going to mature.