heartbreak. Options

[weed]

i found my boyfriends secret myspace, i saw him flirting with other girls and saying this like " i cant wait to see you" and "i hope you dnt mind im flirting"..

my heart is torn. i cant explain this feeling. It just hurts.

please make this stop.

[TearsOfAPhoenix]

It seems to me that the real problem goes back to certain rules or mutual agreements between the two people. Some people don't consider flirting cheating, others do. Obviously to some extent you do and as a result so did he, thus he wouldn't have made a secret MySpace to do just that. Personally, I don't consider flirting cheating, but then again there is a thin line between flirting and taking it too far and yes if he was happy he wouldn't need to flirt and so on. It all depends on the couple I guess.

Back to you, understandably you're hurt, but you really have to calm down because honestly you're coming off as sort of hysterical and I say that as politely as I can. You need to step back and seriously take a deep breath and stop crying because its getting you no where. It hurts I know and I say that after having my boyfriend sleep with another girl, which is much worse than MySpace flirting.

So my advice, since I see you've already brought up the subject with him and were met with apologies and tears from him, is to decide whether those three years you spent together are worth getting over online flirting. You need to confront him head on and ask him if there's anything else he's hiding or needs to tell you and again evaluate if his faults supercede your what seems happy three years. I forgave my boyfriend and he's completely reinvented himself and I've never been happier, the question is whether or not your relationship is strong enough to put that behind yall and start over. Its ok if you have to take some time off to really figure out whats good for you and him or simply split all together because there is no use in having a relationship if you will never be able to trust him as much as a healthy relationship demands. Second chances can be the best thing that ever happens to you if you let it.