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[olga63089]

Me and my current fiance have met in 9th grade when i was a freshmen and he wa sa grade above me. I just out of a relation ship ans we hit it off right away. He understood my beliefs and respected my wishes and really listened. I knew this guy is a keeper. Then i had to move which kind of put an end to things. Over the two years we kept in touch always maing plans to hang out spacially during summer, and then last year i moved back and desided to get a hold of him. Like i expected the feelings we had for each other were still there. We have been together now since aug. so it will be 7 month next week. There have been alot of ups and downs. The person i thought i knew 2 years ago was not the same and he got him self into bad association and did alot of drugs and sold weed. He kept all of that form me untill i got a call from a friend saying that he cheated on me while he was doing multiple amounts of drugs and alcohol. Since then i can truthfully say he has been clean and has no contact with his former life style. He sliped twice .We worked past it but i still feel like i cant always trust him. When he is out i worry about what he is doing and if he is telling the truth. I try to control my feelings but sometimes i cant help it. I know that gets him frustrated that i cant fully put the past behind us. On Jan.16 he proposed to me and i said yes, it was the happiest moment of my life . Then it seems like everything went down hill. My parents who are very religiouse ( jehovas witnesses) found out that we have been sexually active which is un exeptable before marrige. We are currently not allowed to see each other outside my house , which doesnt mean we havnt been. My parents have been preshuring me and him to get married sooner and harrassing him which is making him think if maybe we should wait longer then this summer. Suddenly he is saying he is young and never thought he would get married till he is 30. His parents got married young and had 2 kids before they did and now they are divorced so he was always brought up being told not to get married young. I feel hurt and lied to. I know i love him more then anything and i dont know why age matters if two people really love each other there will be no if its or buts. I dont know how to handdle this situation its too much all at once and my parents are not being much help. Its coming down to me not being able to eat home and pay for my own food. I could move out with my fiance but im afraid it would make things worse with my family and i wont be able to rely on them again. Also im afraid that my fiance will never make up his mind if i live with him without getting married, so he doesnt have to fully commit.
Please help!

[olga63089]

I did talk to my parents about everything and they WANT me to get married they have NO PROBLEM with that that was not the issue. The issue was me not being able to hav emuch freedom because of what me and my fiance have been doing like being ''active''. Things at home worked out and i dont think things have been better. I think no matter how old you are you will always need your parents help not exactly financial but you always NEED them beacuse they are your pareants and i dont think its right to go against what they say no matter how old you are.