no time v. distance, advice? Options

[mytangerine]

it's been a while since i've felt the need to post a topic in this forum; probably because things haven't really been that bad overall, but..

I am "talking" to this guy, i can't even really define it as talking since in the time we've been talking, we've only hung out one time. But, I say we're talking because we have phone conversations everyday with the whole point being getting to know each other well enough to have a decent relationship eventually. ya dig? Anyways, so his name is andrew & he works a lot. He has absolutely no time for me, let alone anyone else really. From school, he goes directly to work & everytime we talk on the phone it's on his way home from work, since that's the only time he can. I really like him & he is the one guy I could see myself having a really long relationship with. It just frustrates me that we can't spend anytime together; if we could things would be great.

Another thing is, I just recently got in contact with a really old guy friend of mine from elementary school. We had gone to school together to fourth grade, fifth grade, I switched schools & we faded quickly. We have been texting so much & having super conversations on aim, & recently started talking on the phone a lot too. The thing is, this guy is like my twin. I swear, we are so much alike, it is crazy. We are also able to talk about anything & be completely open with each other. It's really amazing & I'm actually completely paranoid I'm going to end up falling for him instead of Andrew, mostly because I talk to this guy, Zach so much more & I can tell him anything, whereas with Andrew I have to hold a lot of things back because I don't want him to not like me. I know it's silly, I should just be myself, but I'm just shy with Andrew, yet super outgoing with Zachary, I don't understand. Problem with Zachary is, he lives at least an hour away, while Andrew lives in the same suburb.

Problem simplified-
I'm starting to think it would be better just to be friends with Andrew until he gets less busy but I really don't want to loss him as a potential boyfriend. And talking to Zachary so much is completely confusing me & throwing me off, since I begin wondering more if Zachary will call me than I do Andrew.

what to do, what to do?

[treschicgeek]

^^ Agreed. Seems like you're in check with everything that's going on so I'm pretty sure that with time you'll eventually figure out what to do with both situations.

If I were you I'd stay friends with Andrew simply because of the fact that you have to hold things back. I definitely think that's not a good thing to start a relationship with. The time thing seems really bad too despite the fact that you guys live in the same suburb.

With the Zach guy, you guys seem to have the history and the good "ground work" for a romantic relationship. My boyfriend & I are long distance, & I'm not gonna lie...it's tough, but since you guys seem like you already keep in good contact with each other & are comfortable together, I don't see the distance as too much of a problem.

Hope that helps.