I hate my dad., & I mean it. Options

[mauriciocruelty]

He comes to visit me & my mom every 2 weeks or so from lousiana, he camed last night with my brother because today my brother is turning 17.
the point is that I have a new hairstyle, & I understand that alot of people are not going to like it, & I thought my dad wouldn't really care as long as I was happy. but no he doesn't work like that its always about his happiness.he called me gay & said I look like a girl because I straightened my hair & spike it up from the back (picture on myspace) WTF was I suppose to say? I just told him that it was my hair & not his. now my brother is using my dad's comments against me! so I got mad & punched him, & all of a sudden IM the bad person.
I really hate my dad cause he just can't accept me the way I already AM.
so yeah I've come to deeps thoughts that sometimes I really do want him dead.
I'm a bad son, but he's a HORRIBLE dad.



mauricio cruelty.


someone take me with me you!

[xTINAA]

So what? Who cares that your OWN dad called you those things? Words are just words and someone is always going to think negatively of you, so you just have to deal with it. Like Heathasm said, maybe he said it in a joking sense and you just need to cool it. You already said you were thinking people wouldn't like your haircut, and your dad happens to be one of those people. Parents don't agree with everything their child does and they express that in different ways. Some with saying nothing, some with saying something, some even take it physical. Besides that, I'm sure if your dad is thinking it, others are probably thinking it too but not voicing their opinions to you.

If there are so many problems with your dad, why not grow up and talk to him or even a therapist or someone about it, instead of simply claiming that you hate him? That makes you seem like a child. Many kids have it way worse than their fathers calling them stupid.

Saying "I'm a bad son but he's a horrible dad" does not justify the fact that you want him dead, by the way. To me, it only reveals your immaturity.

[dustbunny]

So what? Who cares that your OWN dad called you those things? Words are just words and someone is always going to think negatively of you, so you just have to deal with it. Like Heathasm said, maybe he said it in a joking sense and you just need to cool it.

um, maybe the fact that his OWN FATHER said those things is the reason why they're so hurtful? yeah words are just words and people have an easier time dealing with remarks when strangers say shit, but when it's your own goddamn father saying such crap about you how can you NOT let it get to you? he's his own FATHER for goodness sake. how would you like it if you were already insecure about yourself and your father couldn't even accept you for the way you were, then gave you an "OMG YOU ARE GAY AND A GIRL !!!11" in a "joking" way. real lovely.

besides the fact that the whole "I HATE YOU and I WANT HIM TO DIE" is extreme, it's a pretty normal response to an event like this. i'm sure you've cooled down by now and can see that his death doesn't really result in anything beneficial to the both of you and as much as you dislike and disagree on what he said about you, i'm sure you don't completely hate him or wish him death. I agree on all of the suggestions for an in dept talk, etc to at least get everything cleared up. if in the end, he just can't accept the way you are, then you'll have to move on. good luck with everything

[xTINAA]

um, maybe the fact that his OWN FATHER said those things is the reason why they're so hurtful? yeah words are just words and people have an easier time dealing with remarks when strangers say shit, but when it's your own goddamn father saying such crap about you how can you NOT let it get to you? he's his own FATHER for goodness sake. how would you like it if you were already insecure about yourself and your father couldn't even accept you for the way you were, then gave you an "OMG YOU ARE GAY AND A GIRL !!!11" in a "joking" way. real lovely.

Again, who cares if it's his own father? He's the one that is insecure in the first place and you can't blame your insecurity on other people. If he's already that insecure then it will be pretty much the same whether a stranger says it OR his father does because either way someone is hurting his already non-existent ego. It's not even a matter of his father accepting him for the way he is either, it's that his dad doesn't like his damn haircut. Boo f**king hoo. It's not like his dad said something ACTUALLY hurtful like "You're the worst son ever, I wish you were never born, you are horrible at everything you do, and I hate everything about you including your gay, girly hair." Anyways, Kyrogenix said it perfectly when he said

If your dad has a problem with your hairstyle, you can swallow your pride and change it, or you can keep it and deal with him, or you ca get the f**k out of the house. It's up to you.

Plus he said his father and him have MANY problems besides just this problem, suggesting that things like this have probably happened before, and suggesting that he probably didn't think much of him before he made the comment about his hair. So why should he care if someone who he already doesn't like says something about his hair? I say he needs to grow up.