Jealousy, Boyfriend - best friend - they happen to be best friends Options

[azndreamer]

Hey guys,
I would really appreciate if someone could comment on just whether i am being irrational or even somewhat justified in feeling this way. And if anything, do you guys have any thoughts about what i should do about this?

So here's my situation:
I have a boyfriend who i like a lot. We started out as best friends and we were always closest to each other, more so than with anyone else here. We still are pretty close, but now he's closer to my best friend. I know this sounds like me, me, me, but i can't stop feeling like this. I don't have a problem with the two of them being friends or even close. It's just that i feel kinda like she is replacing me as his closest friend and i really valued that relationship with him. We used to be able to talk about literally anything. Now it seems like if something should happen he would go to her first, and that makes me feel really bad. I'm not jealous in the sense that he likes her or she likes him romantically, but more in the sense that they are becoming better friends than we ever were, and i'm kinda losing my boyfriend in the sense that we can talk about anything. I have told him and my best friend about this, and she understands what i'm feeling mostly, but they think that im worried about the two of them liking each other romantically. That's not really what i'm worried about. Do you guys have any ideas on how i should sort this out? Especially just with myself and in my own head. I'd rather not talk about this with them again. I just want to sort out my own thoughts about this so any feedback would be appreciated.

[DoubleJ]

I have two points to make about this topic.

#1 You need to check your boyfriend asap, and tell him to stop the bullshit. You are the one who he is committed to, and with that being said, you are his number one priority.

#2 Let me just state for the record, that I do happen to have a female best friend, and she will always know the low down and the going ons in my life before my girl (when I get one) would. Why?! My female best friend is 33, so I know that I can confide in her in stuff, since she is more experienced than I am. I will never figure out, why girls are threatened by their spouses female friend, because WOMEN don't worry about that. I guess it comes with time and experience, but every person that I hang out with, doesn't have that problem.

Being a man, I know that we need that outside of the box perspective when it comes to certain things.

[queen]

#2 Let me just state for the record, that I do happen to have a female best friend, and she will always know the low down and the going ons in my life before my girl (when I get one) would. Why?! My female best friend is 33, so I know that I can confide in her in stuff, since she is more experienced than I am. I will never figure out, why girls are threatened by their spouses female friend, because WOMEN don't worry about that. I guess it comes with time and experience, but every person that I hang out with, doesn't have that problem.

Being a man, I know that we need that outside of the box perspective when it comes to certain things.

maybe you'd be fine with your girlfriend or spouse sharing her most intimate thoughts with a male other than you, but i wouldn't be. i also believe it wouldn't be fair to the male best friend's spouse or girlfriend that he's willing to listen to the problems/affairs of another women aside from her. if it's just casual dating, it's all right, but if you're going to commit yourself to another human being, do it wholly.