Jealousy, Boyfriend - best friend - they happen to be best friends Options

[azndreamer]

Hey guys,
I would really appreciate if someone could comment on just whether i am being irrational or even somewhat justified in feeling this way. And if anything, do you guys have any thoughts about what i should do about this?

So here's my situation:
I have a boyfriend who i like a lot. We started out as best friends and we were always closest to each other, more so than with anyone else here. We still are pretty close, but now he's closer to my best friend. I know this sounds like me, me, me, but i can't stop feeling like this. I don't have a problem with the two of them being friends or even close. It's just that i feel kinda like she is replacing me as his closest friend and i really valued that relationship with him. We used to be able to talk about literally anything. Now it seems like if something should happen he would go to her first, and that makes me feel really bad. I'm not jealous in the sense that he likes her or she likes him romantically, but more in the sense that they are becoming better friends than we ever were, and i'm kinda losing my boyfriend in the sense that we can talk about anything. I have told him and my best friend about this, and she understands what i'm feeling mostly, but they think that im worried about the two of them liking each other romantically. That's not really what i'm worried about. Do you guys have any ideas on how i should sort this out? Especially just with myself and in my own head. I'd rather not talk about this with them again. I just want to sort out my own thoughts about this so any feedback would be appreciated.

[miyashu]

So as I was reading the first few replies, I thought "Damn, I must be the only one who would get angry if I was in this situation."

To me, it seems like your bf has grown more comfortable sharing things with your friend, and you seem like "second place" to her. This is wrong in my eyes. After all, your best friend isn't in your relationship.

It's okay if they're friendly with each other, but like agiri said, I feel like there's a certain boundary people need to respect when it comes to their friends' relationships.

You've probably heard this so many times before but it's important: communication is key. If you decide to confront your friend (or boyfriend) for a second time, be more specific with the problem because it sounds like they're still not getting it. You should also talk to your boyfriend about this; ask him if he has started to feel uncomfortable telling you certain things. Don't attack him with lots of questions or anything; but be direct.