Different beliefs? Options

[DeadlyKitten]

me and my boyfriend both believe in God...but me being a christian i believe in Jesus and a whole lot more. he doesnt really consider himself to be a religion. i believe that sex, and everything to do with sex should be saved for marridge. we've done stuff and even had sex but i had to stop because it was going against my beliefs. he still wants me to give him bj's and he still wants to touch me down there...i'm like...anymore...just not wanting to. i'm worried that if i say i want to stop anything sexual...that he'll leave me...or even worse cheat. i love him and he loves me..but its like...i'm forcing myself to do things to him...its almost not fair. like in my oppinion true love waits....but at this point...i dont think he will. what should i do??? i'm so worried about it. i'm not turining this into a God thing...so don't call me stupid for what i believe...its just that...since we dont believe things the same way...i'm worried if i stop all sexual things with him he'll cheat or leave.

[DeadlyKitten]

well i told him. he said he respects it and he'll deal with it. he loves me to much to leave me for that reason. i do agree...with almost all of you. i came into this relationship very imature. i did things to get close to him although i knew they were wrong (to me). now (like a friend told me) its gna be hard to change the rules in the middle of the game. he knew where i stood with the sex thing. so us not having sex isnt anything to him. he knows what that means to me. he just didnt want to not do anything. part of me wants to do things aside from sex with him but i feel wrong doing it. i guess i'm just confused. i know that God will love me no matter what but i can only ask fro forgivness so many times before He's like...OK...STOP IT! i don't want to feel ashamed for doing things like that. its like part of me believes its ok...yet part of me dont. i dont know. lol i just dont want me going up and down a freaking roller coaster ruin this relationship. i must be nuts. its like...sometimes i can do things and feel so good about it cause i'm close with him...but then...afterwords...i feel so dirty. i don't want to end this relationship...but i just dont know...like anything. lol
if someone can help me figgure out what to do without insualting me please help. i know i go up and down from poat to post over the same subject...but...its like..i'm a growing Christian..I'm still learning. I just don't know about the bjs and everything else that happens before sex...sometimes i feel its ok...sometimes i dont. ARRRG! i agervate myself. lol

[Reidar]

Don't do anything until you're at a point where you're not in doubt about what you want of yourself.

You said you feel it to be wrong for you, but, in the heat of the moment, it sounds like it gets to be too much to say no to. Principles aren't a weathervane like that, shifting direction whenever the situation changes. They're a compass pointing to one destination.

I don't see how someone would merely "deal" with that. Being true to yourself is something to be admired, moreso than any physical attribute or sensation. Humans are ugly little pink things anyways. I'd rather be a great white shark, but with rollerblades so I can go on land and eat people. That would rule.