Different beliefs? Options

[DeadlyKitten]

me and my boyfriend both believe in God...but me being a christian i believe in Jesus and a whole lot more. he doesnt really consider himself to be a religion. i believe that sex, and everything to do with sex should be saved for marridge. we've done stuff and even had sex but i had to stop because it was going against my beliefs. he still wants me to give him bj's and he still wants to touch me down there...i'm like...anymore...just not wanting to. i'm worried that if i say i want to stop anything sexual...that he'll leave me...or even worse cheat. i love him and he loves me..but its like...i'm forcing myself to do things to him...its almost not fair. like in my oppinion true love waits....but at this point...i dont think he will. what should i do??? i'm so worried about it. i'm not turining this into a God thing...so don't call me stupid for what i believe...its just that...since we dont believe things the same way...i'm worried if i stop all sexual things with him he'll cheat or leave.

[transcendentalis...]

i'm worried that if i say i want to stop anything sexual...that he'll leave me...or even worse cheat. i love him and he loves me..but its like...i'm forcing myself to do things to him...its almost not fair. like in my oppinion true love waits....but at this point...i dont think he will.

love cheats? that's new to me. what's also new to me is that you're saying you guys love each other and all, but you're afraid he'll leave you if he doesn't get sex.

really, is that what it's all about for him?

we were on the rocks and he felt itd help..

that's straight-up bs.

Face it, you're obviously not that religious at all and it's too late to go back.

and what do you know about religion? or specifically, christianity?
there is no such thing as "too late" in christianity.

[TheWinterBones]

and what do you know about religion? or specifically, christianity?
there is no such thing as "too late" in christianity.

Please do not doubt that I know anything about religion just because I'm not a christian. In this case, I'm using commonsense. And don't think I'm going to second thought my opinion and feel in any way the slightest bit sympathetic toward Deadlykitten.

If your boyfriend is wise enough, he will probably leave you, not cheat on you. How do you expect him to take you seriously? You gave up your beliefs when you lost your virginity. You've been having sex and now you're taking that away from him to make him wait until marriage.
And that's only if he's the one.

You should have just made him wait. Also, with giving him this knowledge, you would know whether or not he was in it for the sex.

Oh well...

[transcendentalis...]

Please do not doubt that I know anything about religion just because I'm not a christian. In this case, I'm using commonsense. And don't think I'm going to second thought my opinion and feel in any way the slightest bit sympathetic toward Deadlykitten.

you misunderstand.
i'm not ignorant enough to think that you don't know anything about religion because you're not christianity, or perhaps you don't have an intricate understanding of christian beliefs. i brought christianity into the picture because for the majority of their denominations, there is no such thing as "too late."

have i asked you to be more sympathetic, or have i implied it? the only thing i've implied in your direction is that making such hopeless comments is rather ludicrous as none of us have an intricate understanding of major world beliefs, much less all world beliefs.

i hope that clears up what i was trying to say.